My cousin's family/update

[Nomad]

I've been forlorn about the loss of my cousin last year and very recently it was the anniverary of her death. I realized that my communication with- her husband and two sons has been limited, but had hoped for improvement. I reached out to the mother in law, who I have a close relationship with. We write regularly...short, nice notes...I believe appreciated on both ends.

I also wrote short notes to everyone over the last few days.

Guess what? I got short, but lovely notes back from everyone in return this time. One son seem to sincerely express hope that we would keep in touch with- one another.

I feel kinda kinda weird about it all, but GOOD. Knowing that they are okay means a lot to me and also knowing that they know that I am there for them also means a lot to me as well. My gut tells me it is a healthy thing for all concerned. I did not burden them with- obligation, but simply let it be known that I care. They responded in a lovely way. I know that when my own mother died, this was the type of thing I appreciated.

Still missing her terribly...but feel much better about the entire situation.

 

[gcvmom]

It's great that you've reached out to your extended family about this. It's hard to know what to do, how to approach people after a loss, but usually if we think of what has helped us in the past, it's very likely to be helpful to others in similar situations. I hope your relationships with the other family members continue to grow. And that the pain of your loss continues to ease with time.

(((Hugs)))

 

[Nomad]

Thank you.
Totally flummoxed at how deeply saddened I have been over the last day or two.
When the death occurred I was overburdened with- a few other things and I recall saying to myself over and over again "you have to concentrate at the tasks at hand right now" Don't know if that had anything to do with- how hard this hit me...sense I am feeling better and better, as it should be.
Guess what? Just got a facebook invitation from that one son...so he WAS very serious. Perhaps he feels similarly to me...
Just grateful for it all...and for your kindness.

 

[KTMom91]

I'm so happy you heard back from the family.

 

[Mattsmom277]

What a lovely outcome!!! I admit when I saw this post title, I dreaded reading. I thought it was going to be a painful thing. How awesome that it worked out this way. I'm glad you handled it how you did. I can imagine how much those notes meant to you!

 

[Shari]

That's wonderful! Thanks for sharing.

 

[Star*]

Nomad,

I think you're right about the son that sent you the invitation. It seems he is reaching out too. I would imagine his loss is being felt this time of year so much than others realize - other than you. I bet he cherishes the note you sent and even more? The sentiment and sincerity behind it. You're a wonderful woman.