My dad is dying....crying

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by DammitJanet, Nov 26, 2010.

  1. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I have been keeping up with my Dad through phone calls to him and my step-mom because it has been hard for me to drive much anymore. I had planned to go stay with him for a day or so when I went up at Xmas. That isnt to be in the cards anymore.

    My step-mom just called me to tell me they had called in hospice. All his brothers are coming down during this coming week and she said I had better get my boys and come too. No young ones, obviously. I called Jamie. I hope they understood that when I told them that.

    He is supposed to go down tomorrow to see him and let me know if I need to go down before Wednesday when his brothers are coming in which is when I plan on going or what. If I can make it till then it would be good because both Billy and Tony can work those days. Mandy is just gonna have to stay home because the car is gonna be full. Keyana cant come either. Keyana is fairly upset because Grandma is crying.

    I am trying to stop so I dont upset her. She understands who I am talking about and wants to do the book for him. We will do it tomorrow. She is going to record a book for him. Might not have it long but...

    Thankfully I just did the new pics of her so he will get to see those.

    Oh god...I am losing my daddy!
  2. klmno

    klmno Active Member

    ((HUGS)) I am so sorry...
  3. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    *HUGS* Janet, I'm sorry. I hope you get there to see him in time and he enjoys Keyana's book.
  4. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member


    I'm so sorry... Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and praying that your dad is not in any pain, you have a chance to spend some special time with him alone, and that he is surrounded by his family and is at peace when the time comes... Many, many hugs and lots of prayers being said... SFR
  5. Mom2oddson

    Mom2oddson Active Member

    {{{{HUGS}}}} Janet, my heart goes out to you. You and your family are in our prayers too.
  6. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Many many warm gentle (((((hugs))))) my friend. I'm so very sorry.

    On a good note hospice will keep your dad as comfortable as possible. Keyana is such a sweetheart, let her give you lots of lovin right now, you need it and she will feel better to give it.

    Keeping you and the whole family in my prayers.
  7. DaisyFace

    DaisyFace Love me...Love me not


    I'm so sorry....
  8. donna723

    donna723 Well-Known Member

    Many hugs, Janet. I am so very sorry.
  9. jal

    jal Member

    Janet, I am so sorry about this. Hugs to you.
  10. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    Many hugs. I wish there was more I could say.
  11. slsh

    slsh member since 1999

    Janet, dear friend... I'm so sorry. This is just so darned hard.

    I'm glad they've called in hospice. They should be able to keep him comfortable in his own home and give him the support he needs.

    Many hugs to you, hon. You and your family are in my thoughts.
  12. barneysmom

    barneysmom Member

    Janet, keeping you close in my thoughts.

    You got good advice to let Keyana comfort you. Let her know that it's normal to cry when someone we love is dying (I know you know this -- just reminding you, as you are hurting and of course want to protect Keyana).

    grief is hard -- I'll be thinking of you.

  13. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    I'm so sorry, Janet. Thinking of you.

  14. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    I'm so sorry... I know your Daddy has always been a big part of your world. Try to remember that he always will be with you in your heart. And Janet... I understand that there are practical reasons why you are planning on waiting until Wednesday, I really do, but you need to get there tomorrow.
  15. Marcie Mac

    Marcie Mac Just Plain Ole Tired

    So sorry Janet :(

  16. Jena

    Jena New Member



    so sorry, be careful when you go, and enjoy that time with him.

    my thoughts are with you
  17. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Oh, Janet...I'm so sorry. Many, many hugs.
  18. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    This time of year is gonna suck the life out of me from now on.

    First awful thing: Today is my anniversary of my first disastrous marriage to X. 11/6/1980. He picked the same day as his parents wedding anniversary. What a jerk. Need I say more?

    Second awful thing. My mom died on 11/27/2005

    Now, third awful thing: I get told my dad will be dying any day on 11/26/2010

    Fourth awful thing will be his actual death in the next week or two.

    Just dandy. And I never did do well with Thanksgiving through Xmas anyway...guessing its not gonna get any better.
  19. ThreeShadows

    ThreeShadows Quid me anxia?

    I'm so sorry, Janet. I hope you can get there fast. Those old Marines are tough, he'll hang on until he sees you.
  20. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Gentle hugs.