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<blockquote data-quote="PonyGirl65" data-source="post: 687003" data-attributes="member: 20087"><p>Slimothy, Welcome to the Board. Here you will find many compassionate listeners and gentle helpers.</p><p></p><p>My mother suffered Chron's. She also had the surgery to remove bowel and managed fairly well. She learned to stay away from certain foods. She took a healthy (or not ;-) dose of tranquilizers on a daily basis.</p><p></p><p>My step-daughter is an Exotic Dancer. (read: stripper) For me, the hardest part is that we don't tell people in the family. Her dad is in acceptance of his daughter's choices; but he doesn't agree with them. My mother in law would have a complete nervous breakdown if she knew. It's bad enough for mother in law, that we tell her step-daughter is a bartender. Which she is, at several different bars. She also runs the Karaoke and she really loves that.</p><p></p><p>Step-daughter is a "recreational" pot smoker. She has many, many, many disorders - all pretty much self-diagnosed. She has social anxiety and PTSD from traumatic incidents of her childhood. Her life growing up was not a cake-walk. Her mom and dad were never married, never raised her together. Her mom explored other options with her sexuality and was in a long-term lesbian relationship. Kids at school bullied step-daughter relentlessly for this reason. (She claims - I was not in the picture and have no knowledge of the facts)</p><p></p><p>Her mom put her in a psychiatric hospital sometime around 4th or 5th grade. THis was after her mom had pushed doctors for ADD drugs and whatnot, in an effort to control step-daughter's behavior. She then came to live with her dad and his first wife. First wife was not a nice person. Step-daughter did not respond well to first wife. First wife and step-daughter's mom were mortal enemies. Neither of them did anything to shield step-daughter from their hatred of each other. Just a crummy childhood, no doubt about it. But she's 25 now, kind of time to move on.</p><p></p><p>Several years ago, step-daughter accused her cousin of molesting her when she was a child. This was right about the time she began "dancing". husband's family was in complete shock and dismay by that revelation. None of us believe it, quite frankly. Sadly, we think SHE believes it, and of course it's caused quite the rift between her and her cousin. She avoids family gatherings, which is a bit of a relief, to be honest. She is a very difficult person to be around. </p><p></p><p>It seems she's never met anyone who wasn't out to hurt her or mess with her head. She is stuck in blame. She blames everyone and everything for all her troubles, going back 20 years. Ugh. </p><p></p><p>Her dad and I just want the best for her. Her dad is such a gentle and kind soul. He does not engage with her when she goes off on her negative rants. He listens and does not comment. She eventually runs out of energy as he is not feeding in. I have a very tough time listening to the blame blame blame and what I believe are sometimes downright lies. But I try to follow husband's lead, and simply listen with my mouth closed.</p><p></p><p>So, my story is vastly different from yours, but I did want to let you know, there are others of us out there; parents of children who work in the sex trades. I have to work at letting go of the shame of it. I have to try and respect step-daughter for who she is, and believe that she is just trying to pay her bills the best she can. </p><p></p><p>It's tough. I think you're making the exact right choice for yourself, to disengage and take some time apart. I hope you stick with us and keep coming back. I'm sure others will be along soon to share their experience, strength, and hope.</p><p></p><p>Peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PonyGirl65, post: 687003, member: 20087"] Slimothy, Welcome to the Board. Here you will find many compassionate listeners and gentle helpers. My mother suffered Chron's. She also had the surgery to remove bowel and managed fairly well. She learned to stay away from certain foods. She took a healthy (or not ;-) dose of tranquilizers on a daily basis. My step-daughter is an Exotic Dancer. (read: stripper) For me, the hardest part is that we don't tell people in the family. Her dad is in acceptance of his daughter's choices; but he doesn't agree with them. My mother in law would have a complete nervous breakdown if she knew. It's bad enough for mother in law, that we tell her step-daughter is a bartender. Which she is, at several different bars. She also runs the Karaoke and she really loves that. Step-daughter is a "recreational" pot smoker. She has many, many, many disorders - all pretty much self-diagnosed. She has social anxiety and PTSD from traumatic incidents of her childhood. Her life growing up was not a cake-walk. Her mom and dad were never married, never raised her together. Her mom explored other options with her sexuality and was in a long-term lesbian relationship. Kids at school bullied step-daughter relentlessly for this reason. (She claims - I was not in the picture and have no knowledge of the facts) Her mom put her in a psychiatric hospital sometime around 4th or 5th grade. THis was after her mom had pushed doctors for ADD drugs and whatnot, in an effort to control step-daughter's behavior. She then came to live with her dad and his first wife. First wife was not a nice person. Step-daughter did not respond well to first wife. First wife and step-daughter's mom were mortal enemies. Neither of them did anything to shield step-daughter from their hatred of each other. Just a crummy childhood, no doubt about it. But she's 25 now, kind of time to move on. Several years ago, step-daughter accused her cousin of molesting her when she was a child. This was right about the time she began "dancing". husband's family was in complete shock and dismay by that revelation. None of us believe it, quite frankly. Sadly, we think SHE believes it, and of course it's caused quite the rift between her and her cousin. She avoids family gatherings, which is a bit of a relief, to be honest. She is a very difficult person to be around. It seems she's never met anyone who wasn't out to hurt her or mess with her head. She is stuck in blame. She blames everyone and everything for all her troubles, going back 20 years. Ugh. Her dad and I just want the best for her. Her dad is such a gentle and kind soul. He does not engage with her when she goes off on her negative rants. He listens and does not comment. She eventually runs out of energy as he is not feeding in. I have a very tough time listening to the blame blame blame and what I believe are sometimes downright lies. But I try to follow husband's lead, and simply listen with my mouth closed. So, my story is vastly different from yours, but I did want to let you know, there are others of us out there; parents of children who work in the sex trades. I have to work at letting go of the shame of it. I have to try and respect step-daughter for who she is, and believe that she is just trying to pay her bills the best she can. It's tough. I think you're making the exact right choice for yourself, to disengage and take some time apart. I hope you stick with us and keep coming back. I'm sure others will be along soon to share their experience, strength, and hope. Peace [/QUOTE]
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