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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 53746" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>#1 You did not do anything to deserve this.</p><p></p><p>#2 She is not doing this TO you. </p><p></p><p>I know it feels personal. Believe me, I know. To her, this may seem like a responsible thing. Think about it. Not getting along with her roommates, on the verge of getting kicked out. If she told these people that you said she could not come home, either she actually believed she could not come home, or she did not want to come home. So, as silly as joining a carnival may seem to many people, to her it may seem like something responsible that provides her with both a job and a home. And, instant friends.</p><p></p><p>It is unfortunate that you have no way of knowing what she is up to. That is where detachment comes in. Because you also have no control over what she is doing. Worrying about it is only going to make you a wreck. Worrying about it will NOT change the outcome. I am not saying to stop caring about your child. I am saying, detach. Stop worrying constantly about things that you have no control over, because whatever is going to happen will happen whether you worry yourself sick over it or not.</p><p></p><p>Pray for her well being. I am too. Pray the serenity prayer. Till you are blue in the face. and find something to do that is just for you.</p><p></p><p>Gentle hugs (and prayers for YOU) being sent your way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 53746, member: 3647"] #1 You did not do anything to deserve this. #2 She is not doing this TO you. I know it feels personal. Believe me, I know. To her, this may seem like a responsible thing. Think about it. Not getting along with her roommates, on the verge of getting kicked out. If she told these people that you said she could not come home, either she actually believed she could not come home, or she did not want to come home. So, as silly as joining a carnival may seem to many people, to her it may seem like something responsible that provides her with both a job and a home. And, instant friends. It is unfortunate that you have no way of knowing what she is up to. That is where detachment comes in. Because you also have no control over what she is doing. Worrying about it is only going to make you a wreck. Worrying about it will NOT change the outcome. I am not saying to stop caring about your child. I am saying, detach. Stop worrying constantly about things that you have no control over, because whatever is going to happen will happen whether you worry yourself sick over it or not. Pray for her well being. I am too. Pray the serenity prayer. Till you are blue in the face. and find something to do that is just for you. Gentle hugs (and prayers for YOU) being sent your way. [/QUOTE]
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