I don't know what happened to my Mom....but she was not herself this weekend. She's always been a very sweet loving person that never says a bad thing about anyone. She has never said anything bad about my In-laws or my EX no matter what they've done. There was only one person my Mom has ever said anything negative about ("I don't like THAT person!").... and that was a woman who made a very vulgar pass at my Dad at a Christmas party. So, imagine my surprise when easy child and K came to visit and my sweet Mom was anything but sweet. She was sweet to K's face but behind her back had nothing nice to say. K's never eaten crab before, she had a bite of easy child's at dinner and said "It's okay". My Mom came to the conclusion that if easy child marries K, he will never have crab again his whole life. She's sure that her family will make easy child's life miserable (she hasn't even met them). There is a couple from church where she was from MN and he was from here. She didn't like it here after living here for 10 years and wanted to move home. They moved home. He's an alcoholic....therefore, easy child will be forced to move there and he will become an alcoholic. And so on it went all weekend. My Mom has never been this negative. I don't know if she's having trouble with the idea that easy child is growing up and starting a life independent of us. I don't know if Grandma and Grumpus have worn her down so much that she can't find any happiness in life anywhere. Believe me, those two are aging Mom really fast. I don't know if it's all of Mom's guilt taking a toll on her. Mom flogs herself over every little thing. Grandma's Dementia is getting worse... and it's Mom's fault don't you know! After all, if she was more organized and had more time, she could spend time working with Grandma and then she wouldn't get worse. Anyways, K is a sweet girl. Very down to earth, not big on make-up or hair. She's content with who she is. And she makes easy child very, very happy. They laugh and play and tease each other all the time. They are best friends. And we will see what the future brings. I just hope Mom can pull it together. I'm starting to really worry about her.