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My God, does it ever end?
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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 57431" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>Mikey,</p><p></p><p>I understand more than you know. I have an alcoholic brother, which is a big part of the reason I've been a bit MIA these past 6 or so months.</p><p></p><p>He's 6 years older than I am, but I was also brought into the circle of hurt back when he began his binges in his 30s. He ended up staying sober for 11 years, but 2 years ago, fell off the wagon, and fell hard. By this time, he had lost his wife and family, we had lost my dad, and my mother had aged considerably. I was left holding the ball and it was getting heavier and heavier. I've had to deal with getting him help, over and over and over, again, until finally it had reached the point that he wouldn't agree to help. I had to step it up a notch and finally have him arrested. It's not a choice I wanted to make, but keeping my mother safe (since he was living with her) and getting her physically and emotionally healed from the ordeal was my top priority.</p><p></p><p>I often refer to my difficult child brother when talking to my own difficult child son. Addiction runs in families, and there is no getting around it - my son has that gene. Having an occasional beer is one thing, but drinking until you are drunk is something totally different.</p><p></p><p>My son gets mad with me when I compare him to my brother. Even now, he doesn't want to hear it, but I think it's important that he realize where his life could go. Yes, for 11 years my brother stayed sober, but for an addict/alcoholic, the battle truly never ends. One slip, and it could very well be the end.</p><p></p><p>I hope your son sees his uncle as what could very well happen to him - the bigger picture.</p><p></p><p>As far as having no empathy, it's those blinders that addicts/alcoholics, not to mention most teens in general, wear. It's sad that they are afraid to feel.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p><p></p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 57431, member: 27"] Mikey, I understand more than you know. I have an alcoholic brother, which is a big part of the reason I've been a bit MIA these past 6 or so months. He's 6 years older than I am, but I was also brought into the circle of hurt back when he began his binges in his 30s. He ended up staying sober for 11 years, but 2 years ago, fell off the wagon, and fell hard. By this time, he had lost his wife and family, we had lost my dad, and my mother had aged considerably. I was left holding the ball and it was getting heavier and heavier. I've had to deal with getting him help, over and over and over, again, until finally it had reached the point that he wouldn't agree to help. I had to step it up a notch and finally have him arrested. It's not a choice I wanted to make, but keeping my mother safe (since he was living with her) and getting her physically and emotionally healed from the ordeal was my top priority. I often refer to my difficult child brother when talking to my own difficult child son. Addiction runs in families, and there is no getting around it - my son has that gene. Having an occasional beer is one thing, but drinking until you are drunk is something totally different. My son gets mad with me when I compare him to my brother. Even now, he doesn't want to hear it, but I think it's important that he realize where his life could go. Yes, for 11 years my brother stayed sober, but for an addict/alcoholic, the battle truly never ends. One slip, and it could very well be the end. I hope your son sees his uncle as what could very well happen to him - the bigger picture. As far as having no empathy, it's those blinders that addicts/alcoholics, not to mention most teens in general, wear. It's sad that they are afraid to feel. Hang in there. Deb [/QUOTE]
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