She and I discussed whether she could help out and talk to husband about getting on board with-difficult child. I said sure. That was Sat. She tried to call, but never got a hold of him. Yesterday was his birthday. She got through, just before he walked into Sunday school class. She wished him a happy birthday but her family info was too direct. She was supposed to be more subtle and talk about her kids. She did, but it wasn't subtle. She must have been stressed because she pretty much told him that it's not about him, it's about difficult child. (Fine for a therapist to do that, but not a meddling in-law.) difficult child is too young to be thrown out, and if he goes anywhere, it should be rehab or some kind of group home. She said she knew I was stressed and husband agreed, and she said, "What are you doing to help her?" husband said he visited Cousin P all the time. HAHAHAHAAHAHA! He has visited her once since Christmas, and twice in 2014. He complains that I am overworked, but instead of helping out with-difficult child and P, he es about how much of my time they take up and THAT stresses me out more. Yes, I tell him that. She also said that with mental illness and autism, you need to be an advocate and a teacher, and get to the bottom of WHY he is using. It's cool and social to smoke or whatever with-friends, and apparently this is all the better he can do in regard to friendships. Help him out by taking him to places where he can interact with-other, more normal kids. Be a huge part of his life. husband did not like that. He said he is still reeling from the loss of the coins and it's going to take awhile to get over it. I told him, and she told him, that we are running out of time. husband told me she had called. "She called on MY BIRTHDAY and stressed me out. And gave me a lecture on MY BIRTHDAY." (You're right. The world stops spinning on its axis on your birthday. No, I did not say that but I had to bite my cheeks to stop from laughing.) I talked to her this a.m. and she apologized that it didn't go well. As I said in several other notes, I have two children living with me. I know that many of you are in the same boat.