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My mother is taking over my life and I don't know what to do anymore!
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 654896" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>She went WAY over the line. You need to contact the police and consult with them about what charges could be filed. Yes, your mother could have criminal charges filed for her actions. Should she face them?</p><p></p><p>Maybe before you answer that you should ask if you want her to continue to do this? If that answer is yes, then don't call the cops, the bank or anyone else. If you do not want this to continue, then find out what your legal options are. I am not saying to press charges, but maybe the cops will give you the info and you can use it make her back off.</p><p></p><p>More than a few of us have told you that you must start setting some real boundaries and enforcing them. This is just another reason for that. in my opinion you need to at least take a 'break' from having your mother 'help' you. It won't be easy, but her help comes with serious strings and it sound like she has no respect for you. That means her help comes at too high a price, in my opinion. </p><p></p><p>At the very least you need to set new passwords on EVERYTHING, and I mean every account you own, and you need to tell your mom that she is way out of line and is not helping. She totally disrespects you and you continue to allow it. I wish I was surprised by her actions, but I am not. You have a real issue with setting boundaries and until you figure out how to do that, and how to enforce them, she will NOT stop at this. I would likely block her from your life, and would at the very LEAST let her know that she committed FELONIES by impersonating you to your bank and your cell phone provider. Then I would go without her help or any contact for quite a long time, until she is remorseful and can abide by some sane boundaries. </p><p></p><p>Please read some of the books that others have suggested, like Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend, and work toward insisting on a much healthier relationship iwth your mom whether she likes it or not. You are an adult and a parent, and it is time to step up and demand that your boundaries be respected or else to accept that you will always be treated like this. Regardless of whether you set boundaries or not, get your home locks changed, don't give her a copy, let your landlord/building manager know to NEVER let her into your home, and reset ALL passwords, etc.. to something that your mom cannot guess.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 654896, member: 1233"] She went WAY over the line. You need to contact the police and consult with them about what charges could be filed. Yes, your mother could have criminal charges filed for her actions. Should she face them? Maybe before you answer that you should ask if you want her to continue to do this? If that answer is yes, then don't call the cops, the bank or anyone else. If you do not want this to continue, then find out what your legal options are. I am not saying to press charges, but maybe the cops will give you the info and you can use it make her back off. More than a few of us have told you that you must start setting some real boundaries and enforcing them. This is just another reason for that. in my opinion you need to at least take a 'break' from having your mother 'help' you. It won't be easy, but her help comes with serious strings and it sound like she has no respect for you. That means her help comes at too high a price, in my opinion. At the very least you need to set new passwords on EVERYTHING, and I mean every account you own, and you need to tell your mom that she is way out of line and is not helping. She totally disrespects you and you continue to allow it. I wish I was surprised by her actions, but I am not. You have a real issue with setting boundaries and until you figure out how to do that, and how to enforce them, she will NOT stop at this. I would likely block her from your life, and would at the very LEAST let her know that she committed FELONIES by impersonating you to your bank and your cell phone provider. Then I would go without her help or any contact for quite a long time, until she is remorseful and can abide by some sane boundaries. Please read some of the books that others have suggested, like Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend, and work toward insisting on a much healthier relationship iwth your mom whether she likes it or not. You are an adult and a parent, and it is time to step up and demand that your boundaries be respected or else to accept that you will always be treated like this. Regardless of whether you set boundaries or not, get your home locks changed, don't give her a copy, let your landlord/building manager know to NEVER let her into your home, and reset ALL passwords, etc.. to something that your mom cannot guess. [/QUOTE]
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