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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 648447" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, Mom.</p><p>You have certainly done all the things that great parents do, and then some. And you even knew what you were getting into.</p><p>You are well aware that PTSD and attachment disorder are extremely difficult to treat, much less "cure."</p><p>Unless he gets 24/7 intensive therapy right now, and gets off of his street drugs, I'd say that his days are numbered. I would lock him out, too.</p><p>Tough Love and all that.</p><p>Check with a lawyer to find out how to go about doing it so that you do not get charged with abandonment. Be sure to document every time your son threatens you, verbally or physically. Take pictures, record phone calls, all that. (Just do it but don't tell him you're doing it or he will blow up.)</p><p>You may be stuck between a rock and a hard place.</p><p>If the law says you will be charged with-abandonment, you could have him move back in for oh, 20 minutes until he steals something, call the police, and have him locked up again. Then do it the next time he's released. Keep doing it until he's 18. <em>Then</em> you can change the locks.</p><p>But he'll come back even after they've been changed.</p><p>A lot of headaches to get around an under-18 abandonment charge, but I can't think up anything else.</p><p>As long as he's not consistently taking his medications, and he is using street drugs, you basically have a mean, lying stranger living at your house. I say that because you said that when he was in the 9-month program, for example, he cleaned up his grades and did very well with structure.</p><p>But the draw of these "friends" is strong.</p><p>Is there any way to get him into a program that is really far away, in another state, where he cannot go back to his user-friends? They are extremely expensive. But so is having all or your jewelry stolen.</p><p>You know by now, that you can't claim it on your insurance, because he is a family member under 18, covered under the same homeowner's plan, and you can't steal from yourself. been there done that. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 648447, member: 3419"] Welcome, Mom. You have certainly done all the things that great parents do, and then some. And you even knew what you were getting into. You are well aware that PTSD and attachment disorder are extremely difficult to treat, much less "cure." Unless he gets 24/7 intensive therapy right now, and gets off of his street drugs, I'd say that his days are numbered. I would lock him out, too. Tough Love and all that. Check with a lawyer to find out how to go about doing it so that you do not get charged with abandonment. Be sure to document every time your son threatens you, verbally or physically. Take pictures, record phone calls, all that. (Just do it but don't tell him you're doing it or he will blow up.) You may be stuck between a rock and a hard place. If the law says you will be charged with-abandonment, you could have him move back in for oh, 20 minutes until he steals something, call the police, and have him locked up again. Then do it the next time he's released. Keep doing it until he's 18. [I]Then[/I] you can change the locks. But he'll come back even after they've been changed. A lot of headaches to get around an under-18 abandonment charge, but I can't think up anything else. As long as he's not consistently taking his medications, and he is using street drugs, you basically have a mean, lying stranger living at your house. I say that because you said that when he was in the 9-month program, for example, he cleaned up his grades and did very well with structure. But the draw of these "friends" is strong. Is there any way to get him into a program that is really far away, in another state, where he cannot go back to his user-friends? They are extremely expensive. But so is having all or your jewelry stolen. You know by now, that you can't claim it on your insurance, because he is a family member under 18, covered under the same homeowner's plan, and you can't steal from yourself. been there done that. :( [/QUOTE]
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