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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 631980" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>Thanks so much ladies for your supportive comments!</p><p></p><p>I have to let you know that IN NO WAY do I feel I'm out of the woods. This revelation of his, I took ONLY for ME, to help ME heal from this vile trap I have been in for more than a decade-of my own making!-the source of my own self inflicted agony is telling me to stop trying! Wow.</p><p></p><p>Indeed, it WAS a gift. From the frickin universe. Yes, it was kind and it was honest.</p><p></p><p> That is often the duplicity of us and our difficult children-they can be SO honest -usually about stuff we would rather not know-or they can be such liars-to the point where we think WE are insane (Wait, did they just tell me THAT? Did THAT really happen? Do they expect me to believe THAT? etc....)</p><p></p><p>And MWM-I'm thinking that my difficult child has both socio and psycho tendencies. Just got 2 books from the library-The Sociopath Next Door and Confessions of A Sociopath by M.E. Thomas. I have no doubt that I will find my difficult child in the pages of both books. But things that he has said lead me to think he is also a psychopath. Hell, he has even taken the online tests and has told me, "I got a 9 out of 10 score for both" . So theoretically, I know what I'm dealing with. So does he.</p><p></p><p>I guess I will have to tread carefully all my life, whenever I have to be around him...</p><p></p><p>My questions right now, ladies, are:</p><p></p><p>Is it our place to warn people about the tendencies we see in our difficult children? Do we say, especially to new people in their lives, " Hey, this person may harm or hurt you in some way?" Is that our right? Or do we let our difficult children repeat the same ole patterns, hoping they will learn, with whatever humanity lies dormant in them, that they need to practice (or imitate) compassion, empathy , kindness, etc. in order to thrive alongside their fellow humans?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 631980, member: 13561"] Thanks so much ladies for your supportive comments! I have to let you know that IN NO WAY do I feel I'm out of the woods. This revelation of his, I took ONLY for ME, to help ME heal from this vile trap I have been in for more than a decade-of my own making!-the source of my own self inflicted agony is telling me to stop trying! Wow. Indeed, it WAS a gift. From the frickin universe. Yes, it was kind and it was honest. That is often the duplicity of us and our difficult children-they can be SO honest -usually about stuff we would rather not know-or they can be such liars-to the point where we think WE are insane (Wait, did they just tell me THAT? Did THAT really happen? Do they expect me to believe THAT? etc....) And MWM-I'm thinking that my difficult child has both socio and psycho tendencies. Just got 2 books from the library-The Sociopath Next Door and Confessions of A Sociopath by M.E. Thomas. I have no doubt that I will find my difficult child in the pages of both books. But things that he has said lead me to think he is also a psychopath. Hell, he has even taken the online tests and has told me, "I got a 9 out of 10 score for both" . So theoretically, I know what I'm dealing with. So does he. I guess I will have to tread carefully all my life, whenever I have to be around him... My questions right now, ladies, are: Is it our place to warn people about the tendencies we see in our difficult children? Do we say, especially to new people in their lives, " Hey, this person may harm or hurt you in some way?" Is that our right? Or do we let our difficult children repeat the same ole patterns, hoping they will learn, with whatever humanity lies dormant in them, that they need to practice (or imitate) compassion, empathy , kindness, etc. in order to thrive alongside their fellow humans? [/QUOTE]
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