Mattsmom277
Active Member
Can't post much. I'm overwhelmed. Emotions I can't even put in words, so many of them. I think I might be in a numb place at this moment.
This sick twisted perverted pig turned up at my baby sisters school (a 2 hour drive away) against a no contact order today. In spite of the clear warning I gave him to stay away from her or I WILL gather all the victims I learned about over the past 2 years (Over 10 of us, all family, blood) and take it to the crown attorney who is ACHING for us to all band together and put him away. My sisters mother found out she'd been in secret contact with him for a while now and a fight ensued. My sister ran away from home with her cell phone so she could call me. She was hysterical and I still am unclear what went on between her and her mother. Apparently while I was on the phone with my sister (She was at a neighbors house) her mother called my father and fought with him. Suddenly my father messaged me via facebook. First contact in over 20 years except my couple of recent warnings that I will never let him get his hands on my sister.
After I puked my guts out from seeing his message, I calmed down. His message was basically sucking up to me and saying he didn't mean to contact her, blah blah blah. He'll stay away (Read: Please don't take legal action, I is scarrrrred). I dug in and over a period of 3 hours he went from almost confessing in writing to implying he was going to end his life tonight in order to give me and all of his victims peace. Eventually he confessed to every single victim, admitted the hell he has made us all live, claimed his life was now a lonely living hell. Said after a year and half of sobriety he was confessing now in order to prove he's "changed".
That was my goal when it was obvious he was going to try to "confess in return for forgiveness and peace for ME", which was actually him hoping that if he apologized, fessed up to everything and everyone of his victims, I'd roll over and accept it and move on without pursuing him in criminal court.
I replied with a thank you for putting it in writing. Ask God for forgiveness because I am unable to forgive him until he faces justice in a open court where all of us can speak our piece, to gain our peace. Told him he could live his "hell" (I used that term because he described his existance as hell) in a cell for as long as a judge sees fit.
He finally got the hint that he had just given it up to a perfect prosecution and thankfully no more messages from him. He knew it was all over.
I have a staff sergeant contacting me to come by tomorrow. This police department could not build a case when I pressed charges. My baby sisters eldest half sister (he is not her father) had the same problem 3 years ago. She now has a child. My heart breaks for her. My aunts are on board to give statements now that he confessed. We assume he will simply plead guilty as he obviously knows it is too late to plead not guilty. He seemed resigned that if I wanted to get him to prison, I was going to anyhow. His last ditch effort was to beg my forgiveness in order to have me back off. Not a chance.
I feel proud. I feel broken. I feel relieved. I feel weak in the knees. I feel such an overwhelming feeling of liberation. I feel that already I have been given some justice along with all of my relatives and the other young women he abused. He has done this from age 14 until at least 3 years ago. We are not sure if there are others since. He would never stop without bars around him. I feel mostly shock. You hope and pray for this type of thing, for this day, but after 20 years for me and 40 years for my aunts etc, you can't really believe anymore that he'll ever face justice. Today is that day. It is hard to comprehend in its entirety.
This sick twisted perverted pig turned up at my baby sisters school (a 2 hour drive away) against a no contact order today. In spite of the clear warning I gave him to stay away from her or I WILL gather all the victims I learned about over the past 2 years (Over 10 of us, all family, blood) and take it to the crown attorney who is ACHING for us to all band together and put him away. My sisters mother found out she'd been in secret contact with him for a while now and a fight ensued. My sister ran away from home with her cell phone so she could call me. She was hysterical and I still am unclear what went on between her and her mother. Apparently while I was on the phone with my sister (She was at a neighbors house) her mother called my father and fought with him. Suddenly my father messaged me via facebook. First contact in over 20 years except my couple of recent warnings that I will never let him get his hands on my sister.
After I puked my guts out from seeing his message, I calmed down. His message was basically sucking up to me and saying he didn't mean to contact her, blah blah blah. He'll stay away (Read: Please don't take legal action, I is scarrrrred). I dug in and over a period of 3 hours he went from almost confessing in writing to implying he was going to end his life tonight in order to give me and all of his victims peace. Eventually he confessed to every single victim, admitted the hell he has made us all live, claimed his life was now a lonely living hell. Said after a year and half of sobriety he was confessing now in order to prove he's "changed".
That was my goal when it was obvious he was going to try to "confess in return for forgiveness and peace for ME", which was actually him hoping that if he apologized, fessed up to everything and everyone of his victims, I'd roll over and accept it and move on without pursuing him in criminal court.
I replied with a thank you for putting it in writing. Ask God for forgiveness because I am unable to forgive him until he faces justice in a open court where all of us can speak our piece, to gain our peace. Told him he could live his "hell" (I used that term because he described his existance as hell) in a cell for as long as a judge sees fit.
He finally got the hint that he had just given it up to a perfect prosecution and thankfully no more messages from him. He knew it was all over.
I have a staff sergeant contacting me to come by tomorrow. This police department could not build a case when I pressed charges. My baby sisters eldest half sister (he is not her father) had the same problem 3 years ago. She now has a child. My heart breaks for her. My aunts are on board to give statements now that he confessed. We assume he will simply plead guilty as he obviously knows it is too late to plead not guilty. He seemed resigned that if I wanted to get him to prison, I was going to anyhow. His last ditch effort was to beg my forgiveness in order to have me back off. Not a chance.
I feel proud. I feel broken. I feel relieved. I feel weak in the knees. I feel such an overwhelming feeling of liberation. I feel that already I have been given some justice along with all of my relatives and the other young women he abused. He has done this from age 14 until at least 3 years ago. We are not sure if there are others since. He would never stop without bars around him. I feel mostly shock. You hope and pray for this type of thing, for this day, but after 20 years for me and 40 years for my aunts etc, you can't really believe anymore that he'll ever face justice. Today is that day. It is hard to comprehend in its entirety.