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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 635156" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Hi Mattie, I could have written your post also. I learned that when I told my difficult child she could leave if she didn't like my rules, she did just that. My difficult child had been in counseling since the age of seven. When she turned 14 she began using pot and drinking. At 18 she began getting tatoos and staying out all night drinking/smoking. At 19 she went to rehab, came out and relapsed and lived with a heroin addict for three months. The went to live in a sober house and finally out on her own. She got and lost several jobs during that time, couldn't follow rules and was often too high to go in. It was several horrible years of worry and chaos. She is now 23 and living with her boyfriend and his 6 year old daughter and has a good job and realizes she threw away so many opportunities. It breaks my heart now when she says she would do anything to have those years back and go to college but we tried that twice and she threw it away. </p><p></p><p>I wish I knew what to tell you to do that worked for us because honestly the only thing that we could think to do was to stick to our boundaries, not alow drugs or disrespect in our house and be there when she wanted to do the right thing. I worried constantly so I understand. Some kids have a very difficult time growing up. they turn 18 and think things will be great out on their own with no rules. What they find out is that the world revolves around rules and it's not so fun out there on your own.</p><p></p><p>Families Anonymous (FA) is another great support group. Whatever you do make sure you take care of yourself and stay strong, do not let difficult child think you are weak and will give in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 635156, member: 59"] Hi Mattie, I could have written your post also. I learned that when I told my difficult child she could leave if she didn't like my rules, she did just that. My difficult child had been in counseling since the age of seven. When she turned 14 she began using pot and drinking. At 18 she began getting tatoos and staying out all night drinking/smoking. At 19 she went to rehab, came out and relapsed and lived with a heroin addict for three months. The went to live in a sober house and finally out on her own. She got and lost several jobs during that time, couldn't follow rules and was often too high to go in. It was several horrible years of worry and chaos. She is now 23 and living with her boyfriend and his 6 year old daughter and has a good job and realizes she threw away so many opportunities. It breaks my heart now when she says she would do anything to have those years back and go to college but we tried that twice and she threw it away. I wish I knew what to tell you to do that worked for us because honestly the only thing that we could think to do was to stick to our boundaries, not alow drugs or disrespect in our house and be there when she wanted to do the right thing. I worried constantly so I understand. Some kids have a very difficult time growing up. they turn 18 and think things will be great out on their own with no rules. What they find out is that the world revolves around rules and it's not so fun out there on your own. Families Anonymous (FA) is another great support group. Whatever you do make sure you take care of yourself and stay strong, do not let difficult child think you are weak and will give in. [/QUOTE]
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