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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 699205" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Oh, Sweet Lady, I am SO very SORRY that he has made these choices. It truly is NOT your fault in any way! You and your dear husband have gone so far above and beyond for him and he is perpetually ungrateful. Please don't keep thinking of him as that child. I had to put away ALL photos of my oldest when he went to live with my parents years ago because it just hurt too much and I kept thinking of him as a baby or very young child. It wasn't fair to my other kids or my husband, so I put the photos away and did what I could. It still wasn't easy because my youngest and oldest are literally as much of carbon copies physically as my daughter and I, and as my mother and I. And when it comes to old photos of us as kids, even my grandfather and other relatives used to mix up my mother, daughter and myself! So I always had that reminder, but the photos not being out did help.</p><p></p><p>Concentrate on healthy things that make your day a positive thing. The grandkids as much as you can, because even if their mom has moved on, the kids still need all the family they can get. Start volunteering for something that makes you feel good - animals, kids, elderly, literacy, whatever strikes your passions. You have so much to give, so use that to help fill your time and use up your energy rather than worrying about your son. </p><p></p><p>He may need this time to pull his act together. He knows he doesn't have to live like this, he just wants to right now. Why is beyond me. Just let him live with his actions instead of rescuing him. He is used to being rescued and he relies on it. Do small things as they feel positive to you, and do them for YOU and not him. HE is a man and has proven that he must make his own choices. Until he is ready, you really cannot make him change. I will say that when he is ready, he will accept real help. Even my older brother, who for decades went after me in vicious ways for believing in God, now accepts that there is some Higher Power. He doesn't like the word God, but I don't care what he calls it. I also don't care what church he goes to or what word they use for God. My bro found out that with-o that Higher Power, staying clean and sober won't ever happen. He got sober for a while, got full of himself, and as soon as he started spouting off about being atheist, he fell again. But it was more a stumble, and he got right back up and started again. Now, he isn't hard on me for believing, though we don't talk specifics. </p><p></p><p>I hate that your son cannot seem to get it together. I trust that there is a plan and this is part of it. I also trust that someone somewhere will see how special he is and will figure out what something to help. It is in the plan, but it may take a while to happen. Until then, take good care of yourself and your dear husband. Know that I am here for you! </p><p></p><p>(((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 699205, member: 1233"] Oh, Sweet Lady, I am SO very SORRY that he has made these choices. It truly is NOT your fault in any way! You and your dear husband have gone so far above and beyond for him and he is perpetually ungrateful. Please don't keep thinking of him as that child. I had to put away ALL photos of my oldest when he went to live with my parents years ago because it just hurt too much and I kept thinking of him as a baby or very young child. It wasn't fair to my other kids or my husband, so I put the photos away and did what I could. It still wasn't easy because my youngest and oldest are literally as much of carbon copies physically as my daughter and I, and as my mother and I. And when it comes to old photos of us as kids, even my grandfather and other relatives used to mix up my mother, daughter and myself! So I always had that reminder, but the photos not being out did help. Concentrate on healthy things that make your day a positive thing. The grandkids as much as you can, because even if their mom has moved on, the kids still need all the family they can get. Start volunteering for something that makes you feel good - animals, kids, elderly, literacy, whatever strikes your passions. You have so much to give, so use that to help fill your time and use up your energy rather than worrying about your son. He may need this time to pull his act together. He knows he doesn't have to live like this, he just wants to right now. Why is beyond me. Just let him live with his actions instead of rescuing him. He is used to being rescued and he relies on it. Do small things as they feel positive to you, and do them for YOU and not him. HE is a man and has proven that he must make his own choices. Until he is ready, you really cannot make him change. I will say that when he is ready, he will accept real help. Even my older brother, who for decades went after me in vicious ways for believing in God, now accepts that there is some Higher Power. He doesn't like the word God, but I don't care what he calls it. I also don't care what church he goes to or what word they use for God. My bro found out that with-o that Higher Power, staying clean and sober won't ever happen. He got sober for a while, got full of himself, and as soon as he started spouting off about being atheist, he fell again. But it was more a stumble, and he got right back up and started again. Now, he isn't hard on me for believing, though we don't talk specifics. I hate that your son cannot seem to get it together. I trust that there is a plan and this is part of it. I also trust that someone somewhere will see how special he is and will figure out what something to help. It is in the plan, but it may take a while to happen. Until then, take good care of yourself and your dear husband. Know that I am here for you! (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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