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Frazzledmom
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Hi, I guess this had to happen, it's been building up for a while now. Last night was rough, he called me a b... very angry, all because his snowboard jacket zipper got stuck and he broke it. He called me at work today and asked if I would pick up a gas card and a Dunkin Donuts card for the guy who drives him to school. I said I would buy the gas card but that was enough.
For the past couple of days he has been threatening not to go to school on Wednesday (it would be the second time that he skipped) because he has a biology project due and he has done nothing on it. We tried to encourage him, said we'd help, no luck. He has taken a nose dive in the past two months, it's at the point where it will be tough for him to make it all up. Gone from a A/B student to failing everything.
husband agrees to take him to daughter to get the card (difficult child said he had the money) on the way there he asked to borrow it from his allowance and husband said no, or actually, said he would if he promised to go to school on Wednesday. That if he didn't go to school the money dries up. difficult child said let me out, got out downtown and said he was spending the night with a friend. He also threatened to hitch hike away, quit school, on and on and on.
Before they left we had made the decision that if he did skip school we would stop any allowance he was getting (right now $13/week) and stop any kind of financing at all until he earned it.
This is tough...I know it had to happen, we have allowed ourselves to be treated like doormats and I'm not sure what is worse, that, or not knowing where he is. What do we do next??? I guess it's possible that he could be home later but pride might stop him. He probably won't go to school tomorrow, this is a new chapter for us and I'm not sure how to proceed. Just let him disappear? Start calling? We really have no idea where he is. We can try texting him but I feel like we should give him a bit of time to cool off.
If anyone out there can help I'd be grateful.
-Lynn
For the past couple of days he has been threatening not to go to school on Wednesday (it would be the second time that he skipped) because he has a biology project due and he has done nothing on it. We tried to encourage him, said we'd help, no luck. He has taken a nose dive in the past two months, it's at the point where it will be tough for him to make it all up. Gone from a A/B student to failing everything.
husband agrees to take him to daughter to get the card (difficult child said he had the money) on the way there he asked to borrow it from his allowance and husband said no, or actually, said he would if he promised to go to school on Wednesday. That if he didn't go to school the money dries up. difficult child said let me out, got out downtown and said he was spending the night with a friend. He also threatened to hitch hike away, quit school, on and on and on.
Before they left we had made the decision that if he did skip school we would stop any allowance he was getting (right now $13/week) and stop any kind of financing at all until he earned it.
This is tough...I know it had to happen, we have allowed ourselves to be treated like doormats and I'm not sure what is worse, that, or not knowing where he is. What do we do next??? I guess it's possible that he could be home later but pride might stop him. He probably won't go to school tomorrow, this is a new chapter for us and I'm not sure how to proceed. Just let him disappear? Start calling? We really have no idea where he is. We can try texting him but I feel like we should give him a bit of time to cool off.
If anyone out there can help I'd be grateful.
-Lynn