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My son is bipolar is I have to decide if he should go to the state hospital.
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 721715" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I will be very blunt. You are running out of time. For this boy's sake, send him to the hospital as soon as you can. I mean that.</p><p></p><p>He desperately NEEDS the structure and treatment. An hour is not that far away. My son spent 3 months in a locked ward of a psychiatric hospital that was close to 1.5 hours away. I was there 2-3 days a week every week. Yes, it was brutal, but that is what I needed to do for him. I know a lot of people who live in big cities who commute an hour or more to work each day. Certainly you can manage to commute that far for your child a couple of times a week if you work on your schedule. Especially if you don't have to handle him at home every day.</p><p></p><p>I know all about the panic attacks and PTSD. My son was in the hospital for attempting to murder my daughter while she slept. He was 12 and she was 8. It was just the latest in a long line of problems, of course. Having him out of the house gave all of us a chance to heal. You need that chance also. Make the time to see a therapist to work on the PTSD. Go to a domestic violence center if you have to. Insist that they treat you, because this IS domestic violence even if it isn't the traditional DV. If you go for a private therapist, look for one who does EMDR. It is a very effective form of therapy specifically for PTSD. I forget what EMDR stands for, but you can google it.</p><p></p><p>You cannot fix what is wrong iwth your son. At age 18, you MIGHT be able to get guardianship and be able to force him to get treatment and be medication compliant. MAYBE. That is a total gamble though. It is really tough to get guardianship in most states. Right now you can make him get help. Take advantage of that. </p><p></p><p>I have seen so many parents on here who had the chance to make their child get help but they seemed stable so the parent didn't force it. Then shortly after age 18 the child fell apart, but the parent couldn't do anything. The child refused help and the parent was helpless. Don't be like those parents. Don't let this chance slip away from you. Take advantage of it. It might even be what gives you the evidence you need to get guardianship of him for a while, even to get SSI for him to help support him once he is an adult. I doubt he is going to be able to work given his problems. But getting him to sign the paperwork can be tricky. Getting him to use the money for food and shelter can be even more tricky once he is an adult. If you have this evidence from the state hospital, you may be able to have financial guardianship also. This means you can protect his money so that he isn't taken advantage of and he doesn't use it for games or drugs or things other than food, shelter and necessities. </p><p></p><p>I am begging you to please send him to the hospital. Go and visit him and participate in family therapy and talk to the doctors and therapists. Do all you can. Use the time to get some help for yourself. Please don't let this slip away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 721715, member: 1233"] I will be very blunt. You are running out of time. For this boy's sake, send him to the hospital as soon as you can. I mean that. He desperately NEEDS the structure and treatment. An hour is not that far away. My son spent 3 months in a locked ward of a psychiatric hospital that was close to 1.5 hours away. I was there 2-3 days a week every week. Yes, it was brutal, but that is what I needed to do for him. I know a lot of people who live in big cities who commute an hour or more to work each day. Certainly you can manage to commute that far for your child a couple of times a week if you work on your schedule. Especially if you don't have to handle him at home every day. I know all about the panic attacks and PTSD. My son was in the hospital for attempting to murder my daughter while she slept. He was 12 and she was 8. It was just the latest in a long line of problems, of course. Having him out of the house gave all of us a chance to heal. You need that chance also. Make the time to see a therapist to work on the PTSD. Go to a domestic violence center if you have to. Insist that they treat you, because this IS domestic violence even if it isn't the traditional DV. If you go for a private therapist, look for one who does EMDR. It is a very effective form of therapy specifically for PTSD. I forget what EMDR stands for, but you can google it. You cannot fix what is wrong iwth your son. At age 18, you MIGHT be able to get guardianship and be able to force him to get treatment and be medication compliant. MAYBE. That is a total gamble though. It is really tough to get guardianship in most states. Right now you can make him get help. Take advantage of that. I have seen so many parents on here who had the chance to make their child get help but they seemed stable so the parent didn't force it. Then shortly after age 18 the child fell apart, but the parent couldn't do anything. The child refused help and the parent was helpless. Don't be like those parents. Don't let this chance slip away from you. Take advantage of it. It might even be what gives you the evidence you need to get guardianship of him for a while, even to get SSI for him to help support him once he is an adult. I doubt he is going to be able to work given his problems. But getting him to sign the paperwork can be tricky. Getting him to use the money for food and shelter can be even more tricky once he is an adult. If you have this evidence from the state hospital, you may be able to have financial guardianship also. This means you can protect his money so that he isn't taken advantage of and he doesn't use it for games or drugs or things other than food, shelter and necessities. I am begging you to please send him to the hospital. Go and visit him and participate in family therapy and talk to the doctors and therapists. Do all you can. Use the time to get some help for yourself. Please don't let this slip away. [/QUOTE]
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