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My son is choosing homelessness
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 625960" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Hi Kris, sorry you are in this difficult position. Yes, exactly. Your friends have not been in this situation. They can't possibly understand. I'm in the middle of it and understanding comes in baby steps! What would be considered help in any other setting doesn't help at all with our difficult children.</p><p></p><p>I don't know where that rock bottom is for a lot of our difficult children. That used to be what guided a lot of my help/not help decisions with difficult child, whether or not I was preventing him from "finding bottom." He hit MY idea of bottom time and again, but HIS idea of bottom was unfathomably deep to me, and he didn't care one whit about hitting it. We can't make them climb out of the hole, can't keep them safely on a ledge, can't soften their landing, can't light up the darkness...as much as we may want to. They're adults. I don't think it's harsh at all to respect their decisions and allow them to learn from their choices. I don't think we have any choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 625960, member: 17720"] Hi Kris, sorry you are in this difficult position. Yes, exactly. Your friends have not been in this situation. They can't possibly understand. I'm in the middle of it and understanding comes in baby steps! What would be considered help in any other setting doesn't help at all with our difficult children. I don't know where that rock bottom is for a lot of our difficult children. That used to be what guided a lot of my help/not help decisions with difficult child, whether or not I was preventing him from "finding bottom." He hit MY idea of bottom time and again, but HIS idea of bottom was unfathomably deep to me, and he didn't care one whit about hitting it. We can't make them climb out of the hole, can't keep them safely on a ledge, can't soften their landing, can't light up the darkness...as much as we may want to. They're adults. I don't think it's harsh at all to respect their decisions and allow them to learn from their choices. I don't think we have any choice. [/QUOTE]
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