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My son is choosing to be homeless, I am heartbroken.
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 699989" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome Kailoani,</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us here but sorry you had to.</p><p></p><p>Your son is a legal adult now even though he may not be acting like one. While your family dynamics may have played a role in his behavior it is still no excuse for him to be disrespectful of you or your new husband. I understand that he may not like that you remarried and his feelings about that are valid, however, he still needs to respect your choice.</p><p></p><p>I do hope you can get him to agree to some counseling as they can help him to work through and process his feelings. The problem is he is self medicating to remain numb so he doesn't have to acknowledge his feelings.</p><p>He is still very young so I hope he will come around.</p><p></p><p>One thing I will suggest is that you need to have very clear boundaries with him. What you will and won't put up with. Make it clear to him up front and make sure you stick with it. Our difficult children are really good at reading our emotions and they will use them against us. Be prepared for him to ramp things up with threats.</p><p></p><p>I agree with what the others have posted.</p><p></p><p>You are not alone in this. Stay close to this site and read other stories, you will gain strength.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you.............................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 699989, member: 18516"] Welcome Kailoani, I'm glad you found us here but sorry you had to. Your son is a legal adult now even though he may not be acting like one. While your family dynamics may have played a role in his behavior it is still no excuse for him to be disrespectful of you or your new husband. I understand that he may not like that you remarried and his feelings about that are valid, however, he still needs to respect your choice. I do hope you can get him to agree to some counseling as they can help him to work through and process his feelings. The problem is he is self medicating to remain numb so he doesn't have to acknowledge his feelings. He is still very young so I hope he will come around. One thing I will suggest is that you need to have very clear boundaries with him. What you will and won't put up with. Make it clear to him up front and make sure you stick with it. Our difficult children are really good at reading our emotions and they will use them against us. Be prepared for him to ramp things up with threats. I agree with what the others have posted. You are not alone in this. Stay close to this site and read other stories, you will gain strength. ((HUGS)) to you............................. [/QUOTE]
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