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My son is home and some other thoughts
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 703136" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a different take.</p><p></p><p>I think its hard for two adults, especially parents and kids to live together without the roles kicking in. I would not want to live with even my nicest grown kids. I feel better having them on their own and just checking in as adults wjo are now both grown up and friends.</p><p></p><p>I don't feel they ever get that launch to adulthood while living at home, in our house, while we support them and they get used to being a child again. Of course eventually a normal adult kids launched again, if he must come home, and goes back on his/her own. An adult with trouble launching may never voluntarily leave except to homelessness. They literally will refuse to meet their own needs and continue to call us for help.. Even if we tell them where to find food and shelter for free, they wont. Ive read it for fofteen years. They are helpless as long as they think we may swope in for a rescue.</p><p></p><p>My personal opinion, which does not work for all, is that they should get a plan to move out as soon as possible. I've been on the board a long time and can't remember even one who launched from home. I feel it is detrimental.</p><p></p><p>I think a short time with us is fine and hope everyone can enjoy their adult child with them for a few months...and that they then enjoy watching them on their own with a job and their own place. Hugs to all!</p><p></p><p>Toughlovin, enjoy these good times <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 703136, member: 1550"] I have a different take. I think its hard for two adults, especially parents and kids to live together without the roles kicking in. I would not want to live with even my nicest grown kids. I feel better having them on their own and just checking in as adults wjo are now both grown up and friends. I don't feel they ever get that launch to adulthood while living at home, in our house, while we support them and they get used to being a child again. Of course eventually a normal adult kids launched again, if he must come home, and goes back on his/her own. An adult with trouble launching may never voluntarily leave except to homelessness. They literally will refuse to meet their own needs and continue to call us for help.. Even if we tell them where to find food and shelter for free, they wont. Ive read it for fofteen years. They are helpless as long as they think we may swope in for a rescue. My personal opinion, which does not work for all, is that they should get a plan to move out as soon as possible. I've been on the board a long time and can't remember even one who launched from home. I feel it is detrimental. I think a short time with us is fine and hope everyone can enjoy their adult child with them for a few months...and that they then enjoy watching them on their own with a job and their own place. Hugs to all! Toughlovin, enjoy these good times :) [/QUOTE]
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