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My son is in a crisis unit. Voluntarily, I think.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 694806" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Thank you COM. This is the gist of it.</p><p></p><p>With, my son--he will have to be the motor of his changing and he will have to decide himself the direction. I agree with Albatross. That it could well be because of the stability and support we gave him he can now go forward himself from where he is. I can hope that this is the case. I would feel better had he stayed in the luxe county but he must have had his reasons and the fact that he sought out another crisis center is a good step, not a bad one. </p><p></p><p>And me: the worst his behind me in the job. I have trained myself. I have caught up with the boatload of work. They will heap more on me but the worst is over. And maybe with my son away for a while the stress will get lessened. M and I will both feel more relaxed and less vulnerable and in more control.</p><p></p><p>And the best of all, there are a couple of colleagues that seem to want to be my friend!!! One of them today came to introduce herself. She had watched me so busy for the past 6 weeks and I had not even seen her! We told each other we were beautiful!! Off to a good start. She told me:<em> I have been watching you an so you seem so kind, such a nice person. I want to be your friend. </em>And neither one of us can find a therapist and we each need one so she suggested with a smile that we be each others' therapists, as friends. Well you can't know a person in an hour but I loved being with her and felt happy, so that is a start. </p><p></p><p>And the other woman is my supervisor and I asked her if she would be my therapist but she said we could be friends and talk. You cannot know how gratifying it is to make friends. I have been a long time without real friends, and I am not sure why. I think I have been isolating for a very long time. </p><p></p><p>So, that is a good thing. Or it could be. Now 24 hours later I am feeling that the burden for me really has been my son. I feel so responsible. </p><p></p><p>It is just that he has not been solving his own problems. So just like always they feel as if they are mine to solve. I have to remember that. I cannot take on the weight of his problems. But I was. It is too much for me to carry.</p><p></p><p>I did not know what bad shape I was in. Or put another way: I was ignoring myself. I was not listening to myself. I can change that. I am not sure how just yet, but there must be a way, if I try to be open to it.</p><p></p><p>Thank you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 694806, member: 18958"] Thank you COM. This is the gist of it. With, my son--he will have to be the motor of his changing and he will have to decide himself the direction. I agree with Albatross. That it could well be because of the stability and support we gave him he can now go forward himself from where he is. I can hope that this is the case. I would feel better had he stayed in the luxe county but he must have had his reasons and the fact that he sought out another crisis center is a good step, not a bad one. And me: the worst his behind me in the job. I have trained myself. I have caught up with the boatload of work. They will heap more on me but the worst is over. And maybe with my son away for a while the stress will get lessened. M and I will both feel more relaxed and less vulnerable and in more control. And the best of all, there are a couple of colleagues that seem to want to be my friend!!! One of them today came to introduce herself. She had watched me so busy for the past 6 weeks and I had not even seen her! We told each other we were beautiful!! Off to a good start. She told me:[I] I have been watching you an so you seem so kind, such a nice person. I want to be your friend. [/I]And neither one of us can find a therapist and we each need one so she suggested with a smile that we be each others' therapists, as friends. Well you can't know a person in an hour but I loved being with her and felt happy, so that is a start. And the other woman is my supervisor and I asked her if she would be my therapist but she said we could be friends and talk. You cannot know how gratifying it is to make friends. I have been a long time without real friends, and I am not sure why. I think I have been isolating for a very long time. So, that is a good thing. Or it could be. Now 24 hours later I am feeling that the burden for me really has been my son. I feel so responsible. It is just that he has not been solving his own problems. So just like always they feel as if they are mine to solve. I have to remember that. I cannot take on the weight of his problems. But I was. It is too much for me to carry. I did not know what bad shape I was in. Or put another way: I was ignoring myself. I was not listening to myself. I can change that. I am not sure how just yet, but there must be a way, if I try to be open to it. Thank you. [/QUOTE]
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