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My son is in jail. Again. To visit or not to visit, that is the question...
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 646835" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Carri,</p><p>I've been where you are. My difficult child has been in and out of jail numerous times. husband and I have tried to help him more times than I remember. You get to the point where you say enough is enough. Most people feel lucky to be given a second chance and are grateful and careful with that opportunity. My difficult child has been given dozens of "second chances" and has always managed to screw them up.</p><p>You did the right thing by getting him out of your home. He is a grown man now, not the little boy that you once were able to make everything ok for.</p><p>It takes time to let go of the worrying and on some level it will always be there but it does not have to consume you.</p><p>My difficult child has had bouts with homelessness and while I can't imagine what that must be like for him I have to let it go. He has been given opportunities to help himself and yet this is what he has chosen. There is nothing more I or you can do for them other than pray if you are so inclined.</p><p>Letting go of worry for him does not mean you don't love him or care about him but you need to love yourself, you need to take care of yourself, you need to live your life for yourself.</p><p>I too wish I understood why my difficult child chooses to live the life he does as he is off the charts smart and talented. I just don't get it and I never will but I am finally at peace with it.</p><p>((HUGS)) to you...........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 646835, member: 18516"] Hi Carri, I've been where you are. My difficult child has been in and out of jail numerous times. husband and I have tried to help him more times than I remember. You get to the point where you say enough is enough. Most people feel lucky to be given a second chance and are grateful and careful with that opportunity. My difficult child has been given dozens of "second chances" and has always managed to screw them up. You did the right thing by getting him out of your home. He is a grown man now, not the little boy that you once were able to make everything ok for. It takes time to let go of the worrying and on some level it will always be there but it does not have to consume you. My difficult child has had bouts with homelessness and while I can't imagine what that must be like for him I have to let it go. He has been given opportunities to help himself and yet this is what he has chosen. There is nothing more I or you can do for them other than pray if you are so inclined. Letting go of worry for him does not mean you don't love him or care about him but you need to love yourself, you need to take care of yourself, you need to live your life for yourself. I too wish I understood why my difficult child chooses to live the life he does as he is off the charts smart and talented. I just don't get it and I never will but I am finally at peace with it. ((HUGS)) to you........... [/QUOTE]
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