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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 696099" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>Well, at least this is SOME good news. I cannot tell you what he will do. Though, him getting his hand on some cash before he decides to take this spot he has been waiting for would drastically decrease the chance that he actually goes. Same would go for ANY drug addict in his position. My twin sister just got arrested AGAIN, but she makes your son look absolutely brilliant. Long story short, sister robbed our house 2 years back. When it happened, I told my aunt that Amanda did it, but she honestly didn't even consider that a possibility, so she called the police. Something she still wishes she hadn't done because we are STILL paying for that mistake. Sister has spent a total 9 months behind bars on that single charge. They kept giving her drug court, mental health court, etc. And she absconded every single time. This last time, she was 2 weeks from finishing that program, and having that charge scrubbed from her record. My aunt was so proud of her, she decided to give her all of "her" money. My aunt has been using my sister's food stamp cards to do some of the shopping here, and she always gives her the difference in cash. Food stamps go for maybe 50 c on the dollar on the street, too. My aunt doesn't make a lot of sense when it comes to my sister... Anywho, she gave her a decent chunk of change, and had her hopes up for the first time in years. That night, she absconded from the treatment place. </p><p></p><p>Now, this wasn't my aunt's fault, of course. The point is that an addict not committed to recovery by their own choice doesn't fare very well in the long run. And the chance they may have will be decreased with every dollar they are given. It's kinda like giving a strip of bacon to a dog and expecting him not to eat it. We do not have the foundation required to make the honest, responsible choice to put that money away, and commit to the program. Not right away, at least. We WILL convince ourselves that we have earned "just one (hit, line, shot, drink, etc.)". We will convince ourselves that it's only fair to have one last good run before stopping. These are all delusions. And it leads to our failure every single time. Yes, we need to be treated as adults, but we need to be able to think like adults first. We cannot do money. It might be sad, but it is true. Control over things like that should be given gradually, and only after we demonstrate we are ready for the responsibility. Some people are fortunate enough to have the support of a large, loving family willing to go through all this for them, while others are not. Most dedicated treatment facilities do their best to fill in that role, but it is so much easier when it is a trusted loved one going through it with you, and not a well meaning stranger.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 696099, member: 20267"] Well, at least this is SOME good news. I cannot tell you what he will do. Though, him getting his hand on some cash before he decides to take this spot he has been waiting for would drastically decrease the chance that he actually goes. Same would go for ANY drug addict in his position. My twin sister just got arrested AGAIN, but she makes your son look absolutely brilliant. Long story short, sister robbed our house 2 years back. When it happened, I told my aunt that Amanda did it, but she honestly didn't even consider that a possibility, so she called the police. Something she still wishes she hadn't done because we are STILL paying for that mistake. Sister has spent a total 9 months behind bars on that single charge. They kept giving her drug court, mental health court, etc. And she absconded every single time. This last time, she was 2 weeks from finishing that program, and having that charge scrubbed from her record. My aunt was so proud of her, she decided to give her all of "her" money. My aunt has been using my sister's food stamp cards to do some of the shopping here, and she always gives her the difference in cash. Food stamps go for maybe 50 c on the dollar on the street, too. My aunt doesn't make a lot of sense when it comes to my sister... Anywho, she gave her a decent chunk of change, and had her hopes up for the first time in years. That night, she absconded from the treatment place. Now, this wasn't my aunt's fault, of course. The point is that an addict not committed to recovery by their own choice doesn't fare very well in the long run. And the chance they may have will be decreased with every dollar they are given. It's kinda like giving a strip of bacon to a dog and expecting him not to eat it. We do not have the foundation required to make the honest, responsible choice to put that money away, and commit to the program. Not right away, at least. We WILL convince ourselves that we have earned "just one (hit, line, shot, drink, etc.)". We will convince ourselves that it's only fair to have one last good run before stopping. These are all delusions. And it leads to our failure every single time. Yes, we need to be treated as adults, but we need to be able to think like adults first. We cannot do money. It might be sad, but it is true. Control over things like that should be given gradually, and only after we demonstrate we are ready for the responsibility. Some people are fortunate enough to have the support of a large, loving family willing to go through all this for them, while others are not. Most dedicated treatment facilities do their best to fill in that role, but it is so much easier when it is a trusted loved one going through it with you, and not a well meaning stranger. [/QUOTE]
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