Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
My son is in the hospital.
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 696124" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>He's the same age as me. He isn't too old to change, superficially or drastically. You shouldn't give up home on him. Change isn't a singular event, but a process. It is many small changes that compound to result in something far removed from what was before. That is why it is good to acknowledge that, despite some of the negatives about this recent bout with him, good was clearly done, too. Now he just needs to make the positive parts outnumber the negative ones. It may feel like it is 2 steps forwards, one step back, and that is because it probably is. But even that is progress. He didn't destroy his life overnight, and nobody can expect him to fix it over night. </p><p></p><p>I don't know a whole lot about anger problems. My dad was the stereotypical wife beater, though. Literally wore white tank tops, too. I mean, think about the most cliche wife beater you can possibly imagine, and you wont be too far off from my dad. He wasn't above hitting us, either. One of the only useful things that man ever gave me was the ability to take a punch. And his intelligence. Man is brilliant. I don't have real anger issues, though. I have blown up a few times here or there, but it is extremely rare. Even when I have been forced to use violence, I usually never did it in a blind rage, where I lose control of myself, or what I was doing. Only 1 time have I really lost it in recent memory, and that was when my twin sister was screaming horrible things at my aunt, and I ended up grabbing her by the shoulders, and head butted her. Straight up KO'd her. I didn't like that feeling, though. While she had it coming, I regretted doing it. </p><p></p><p>If he is losing himself routinely, you should bring that up with him, or whoever will hear you out when he finally does start some form of real treatment. Not only is that a very dangerous trait for you, and anybody else around him, it will always stand in the way of his progression. If it is what it sounds like, it may be a fundamental part of who he is. Meaning he can't just wish it away, but will need to make conscious steps to improve his self control. He obviously doesn't want to physically harm you, or others, but that is a distinct possibility if he is seeing red, as they say.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 696124, member: 20267"] He's the same age as me. He isn't too old to change, superficially or drastically. You shouldn't give up home on him. Change isn't a singular event, but a process. It is many small changes that compound to result in something far removed from what was before. That is why it is good to acknowledge that, despite some of the negatives about this recent bout with him, good was clearly done, too. Now he just needs to make the positive parts outnumber the negative ones. It may feel like it is 2 steps forwards, one step back, and that is because it probably is. But even that is progress. He didn't destroy his life overnight, and nobody can expect him to fix it over night. I don't know a whole lot about anger problems. My dad was the stereotypical wife beater, though. Literally wore white tank tops, too. I mean, think about the most cliche wife beater you can possibly imagine, and you wont be too far off from my dad. He wasn't above hitting us, either. One of the only useful things that man ever gave me was the ability to take a punch. And his intelligence. Man is brilliant. I don't have real anger issues, though. I have blown up a few times here or there, but it is extremely rare. Even when I have been forced to use violence, I usually never did it in a blind rage, where I lose control of myself, or what I was doing. Only 1 time have I really lost it in recent memory, and that was when my twin sister was screaming horrible things at my aunt, and I ended up grabbing her by the shoulders, and head butted her. Straight up KO'd her. I didn't like that feeling, though. While she had it coming, I regretted doing it. If he is losing himself routinely, you should bring that up with him, or whoever will hear you out when he finally does start some form of real treatment. Not only is that a very dangerous trait for you, and anybody else around him, it will always stand in the way of his progression. If it is what it sounds like, it may be a fundamental part of who he is. Meaning he can't just wish it away, but will need to make conscious steps to improve his self control. He obviously doesn't want to physically harm you, or others, but that is a distinct possibility if he is seeing red, as they say. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
My son is in the hospital.
Top