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My son is struggling with mental illness and we have no answers!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 675798" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>We adopted an older child who perped on my younger kids for a long time and, yes, I feel guilty about not knowing. But those children who act out sexually do not tell us and are very astute at shutting down their victims, often by saying they will kill them and their parents if they do tell. Regardless of whether we have had "that talk about perps" with our younger children most are too scared of t he perp to tell us so you don't know if he has done it again. He hasn't been caught again. Maybe he has not, maybe he has. At any rate, I'd watch him closely around any other chidlren, especially the young and those who are vulnerable for other reasons.</p><p></p><p>We undid the adoption and made him leave as soon as we found out, although it was a long time before we knew it was a lot more than "just a few times." My other kids remained afraid of him until he was gone for a long, long time, then it all came out and I was horrified. Under our noses. We had not guessed. He had been doing it since his first visit until his last day with us and we have not seen him again and do not feel badly about that. We were too repulsed by his behavior to be his parents. He was not attached to us anyway and said so in residential. Some things are impossible to live with in a family setting.</p><p></p><p>Please be careful and try not to rule out all possibilities. Maybe look into residential. He may be unsafe for your baby. You don't want that. Also, they are good at acting sweet to us, then doing awful things when we are complacent and not around. Don't be like us. Don't be fooled. Be careful.</p><p></p><p>Hugs!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 675798, member: 1550"] We adopted an older child who perped on my younger kids for a long time and, yes, I feel guilty about not knowing. But those children who act out sexually do not tell us and are very astute at shutting down their victims, often by saying they will kill them and their parents if they do tell. Regardless of whether we have had "that talk about perps" with our younger children most are too scared of t he perp to tell us so you don't know if he has done it again. He hasn't been caught again. Maybe he has not, maybe he has. At any rate, I'd watch him closely around any other chidlren, especially the young and those who are vulnerable for other reasons. We undid the adoption and made him leave as soon as we found out, although it was a long time before we knew it was a lot more than "just a few times." My other kids remained afraid of him until he was gone for a long, long time, then it all came out and I was horrified. Under our noses. We had not guessed. He had been doing it since his first visit until his last day with us and we have not seen him again and do not feel badly about that. We were too repulsed by his behavior to be his parents. He was not attached to us anyway and said so in residential. Some things are impossible to live with in a family setting. Please be careful and try not to rule out all possibilities. Maybe look into residential. He may be unsafe for your baby. You don't want that. Also, they are good at acting sweet to us, then doing awful things when we are complacent and not around. Don't be like us. Don't be fooled. Be careful. Hugs!!! [/QUOTE]
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