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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 688064" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>And so it goes............</p><p>I have been where you are, the going back and forth, helping, getting fed up, stopping, starting.</p><p>I went through so much of this with my son. I always had hope that "this time" he'll get it, he'll start getting his act together, he'll start being respectful, he'll get a job, he'll..................................etc.......................</p><p>The day came that I realized the "this time" was never going to happen.</p><p>I know I did all I could. Sure, I could have continued on but at what cost? I cannot live my sons life for him and that is what I was trying to do. It's like I was teaching him how to ride a bike and I ran behind him holding onto the bike but never letting go. I just so desperately wanted him to succeed but my idea of "success" isn't the same as his.</p><p>I think we each have to get the "done" point on our own time. I have often wondered if I had found this site sooner if I would have been able to detach sooner.</p><p>Copa, you and M have gone above and beyond. Only you know how much you can put up with. You set some clear boundaries with him and he was unwilling to oblige and now he's gone. He made the choice for himself by not respecting you.</p><p>I'm sure you will hear from him soon but until then you will go on living your life.</p><p>Hang in there Copa.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 688064, member: 18516"] And so it goes............ I have been where you are, the going back and forth, helping, getting fed up, stopping, starting. I went through so much of this with my son. I always had hope that "this time" he'll get it, he'll start getting his act together, he'll start being respectful, he'll get a job, he'll..................................etc....................... The day came that I realized the "this time" was never going to happen. I know I did all I could. Sure, I could have continued on but at what cost? I cannot live my sons life for him and that is what I was trying to do. It's like I was teaching him how to ride a bike and I ran behind him holding onto the bike but never letting go. I just so desperately wanted him to succeed but my idea of "success" isn't the same as his. I think we each have to get the "done" point on our own time. I have often wondered if I had found this site sooner if I would have been able to detach sooner. Copa, you and M have gone above and beyond. Only you know how much you can put up with. You set some clear boundaries with him and he was unwilling to oblige and now he's gone. He made the choice for himself by not respecting you. I'm sure you will hear from him soon but until then you will go on living your life. Hang in there Copa. [/QUOTE]
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