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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 720672" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>A suggestion: why not only take your own grandchild? If you like, call the other family to tell them about the two girls.</p><p></p><p>These two may end up with more kids. It isnt fair for you to have to raise them if you feel you cant. What about foster care?</p><p></p><p>Is DSS paying you kinship care payments to care for your other grandchild? They should and you would not have to pay them anything to get services. I used to be a foster parent.</p><p></p><p>As for girlfriend's family, it may well be that they are done bailing her out. They may not know their grandchildren are in trouble though and may want to help them if they know. Cant hurt to reach out and ask. They may not have spoken to daughter for years. Addicts csn drive us to going no contact. It is self-preservation.</p><p></p><p>Reconnect with your husband. Dont let your son come between you. Your husband will be there for you. Your son will not.</p><p></p><p>At 34, your son is a man and you really should get help detaching from him...I dont blame your husbsnd for not wantig to give him money. He needs to either kick the drugs, find work, or rely on government services...welare, Medicaid, food cards, food pantries, etc. You are not an ATM. Have you a therapist? Have you ever gone to Al Anon?</p><p></p><p>I wish you luck. Others should come along.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 720672, member: 1550"] A suggestion: why not only take your own grandchild? If you like, call the other family to tell them about the two girls. These two may end up with more kids. It isnt fair for you to have to raise them if you feel you cant. What about foster care? Is DSS paying you kinship care payments to care for your other grandchild? They should and you would not have to pay them anything to get services. I used to be a foster parent. As for girlfriend's family, it may well be that they are done bailing her out. They may not know their grandchildren are in trouble though and may want to help them if they know. Cant hurt to reach out and ask. They may not have spoken to daughter for years. Addicts csn drive us to going no contact. It is self-preservation. Reconnect with your husband. Dont let your son come between you. Your husband will be there for you. Your son will not. At 34, your son is a man and you really should get help detaching from him...I dont blame your husbsnd for not wantig to give him money. He needs to either kick the drugs, find work, or rely on government services...welare, Medicaid, food cards, food pantries, etc. You are not an ATM. Have you a therapist? Have you ever gone to Al Anon? I wish you luck. Others should come along. [/QUOTE]
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