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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 54060" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Alison, I don't know your son, but I interpret his conversation about hating school a little differently. If you ask my son if he hates school, he will answer an unqualified yes. If you ask him what he hates about school, he will tell you that he can't stand the work and the pressure and the boring classes. If you ask him if he hates his current school, he will say it's not bad as far as school goes. If you ask him what's not bad about his current school, he will tell you that the kids are fun and there aren't a lot of rules and some of the teachers are "cool" (he goes to a small progressive school).</p><p></p><p>I guess my point is that M may not be bottling his feelings or simply spitting out the right answer to the powers-that-be. I don't think you can jump to the conclusion that he hates his new school. He may hate the idea of school rather than a specific place. He may hate a part of a school program rather than the school in its entirety. He may hate the anxiety school causes him. </p><p></p><p>In terms of the psychiatrist, it took my son six months to buy into the need for weekly medication checks/psychotherapy (his psychiatrist does both). We simply asked the psychiatrist to build a relationship with our son and not worry about "therapy" until J started going more willingly. He still doesn't like going all that much, but he doesn't try to bolt out of the waiting room door any longer. in my humble opinion, M's reaction is not all that ususual. It can take a lot of time and patience for a relationship with a psychiatrist to work.</p><p></p><p>I don't think I'd talk to him about the conversation you overheard -- I think I'd just wait to see how he continues to do at his new school. And the psychiatrist, well, unfortunately, M may be willing at this point to go without incident, but his emotions take over at the time of the visit. If you read Ross Greene's Explosive Child, he talks about triggers that result in explosions and the cognitive skills deficits kids like ours have. If you haven't looked at the book recently, take another peek. It might give you a window into M's mind.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 54060, member: 2423"] Alison, I don't know your son, but I interpret his conversation about hating school a little differently. If you ask my son if he hates school, he will answer an unqualified yes. If you ask him what he hates about school, he will tell you that he can't stand the work and the pressure and the boring classes. If you ask him if he hates his current school, he will say it's not bad as far as school goes. If you ask him what's not bad about his current school, he will tell you that the kids are fun and there aren't a lot of rules and some of the teachers are "cool" (he goes to a small progressive school). I guess my point is that M may not be bottling his feelings or simply spitting out the right answer to the powers-that-be. I don't think you can jump to the conclusion that he hates his new school. He may hate the idea of school rather than a specific place. He may hate a part of a school program rather than the school in its entirety. He may hate the anxiety school causes him. In terms of the psychiatrist, it took my son six months to buy into the need for weekly medication checks/psychotherapy (his psychiatrist does both). We simply asked the psychiatrist to build a relationship with our son and not worry about "therapy" until J started going more willingly. He still doesn't like going all that much, but he doesn't try to bolt out of the waiting room door any longer. in my humble opinion, M's reaction is not all that ususual. It can take a lot of time and patience for a relationship with a psychiatrist to work. I don't think I'd talk to him about the conversation you overheard -- I think I'd just wait to see how he continues to do at his new school. And the psychiatrist, well, unfortunately, M may be willing at this point to go without incident, but his emotions take over at the time of the visit. If you read Ross Greene's Explosive Child, he talks about triggers that result in explosions and the cognitive skills deficits kids like ours have. If you haven't looked at the book recently, take another peek. It might give you a window into M's mind. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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