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My son told me he got stabbed. I can't stop shaking.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 659763" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Copa, the story makes me doubt him. It really does. It could be true and it could be a ploy for your extreme angst.</p><p></p><p>Think about it. If he was stabbed and had surgery do you really think he wouldn't have called you? Did he mention the hospital he was in? Why won't he give you his address? Is he that brave that he wouldn't be more in fright mode after all that and maybe want to see you?</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't worry about Montana. If he has no money except SSI he won't likely be able to get there, especially if he has a long trek. As for the cold, if he actually moves to a cold area, believe it or not, they learn to survive in the cold too. They build fires and get warm clothing from shelters. Not that this is much comfort, but I do want you to know that it is amazing how they do learn to cope.</p><p></p><p>How did you end the conversation? Did he tell you why he called you? If he gave you no information other than to scare you, you can't help him even if you want to. So was his object to frighten you? Are you sure it is true? Did he explain his surgery? I keep coming back to that. Is he using meth now? It would seem so if he actually did have a fight with meth addicts. If not, where did he find them and did he just walk up to them all by himself and bait them?</p><p></p><p>Copa, there is much more to this story than you were told. It doesn't make sense as a stand alone story.</p><p></p><p>If he was just trying to scare you, it was cruel and I'm so sorry you are so scared. I would be too.</p><p></p><p>The next time he calls with a scary story, and he will, I would say, "Son, if you want to tell me the frightening events in your life, then you also need to tell me where you are and we need to go to McDonalds and talk. I want to see you. If you won't tell me, then it is torture and please don't call me. I am here to give you love and emotional support." Don't mention money. Detachment is whatever you want it to be. There are no rules. But it is accepting that we can't change their lives...only they can...and they can have us as their biggest cheerleaders once they decide to turn it around. That isn't enabling to me.</p><p></p><p>My heart hurts for yours and I am very sad that this happened and I hope he exaggerated or that it didn't even happen at all. Take care of yourself now. There is nothing you can do for your grown son. Go seek comfort with M. Cry. It's ok. Don't let your son pull anything like that again. Cyber-hugs from every cell in my being.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 659763, member: 1550"] Copa, the story makes me doubt him. It really does. It could be true and it could be a ploy for your extreme angst. Think about it. If he was stabbed and had surgery do you really think he wouldn't have called you? Did he mention the hospital he was in? Why won't he give you his address? Is he that brave that he wouldn't be more in fright mode after all that and maybe want to see you? I wouldn't worry about Montana. If he has no money except SSI he won't likely be able to get there, especially if he has a long trek. As for the cold, if he actually moves to a cold area, believe it or not, they learn to survive in the cold too. They build fires and get warm clothing from shelters. Not that this is much comfort, but I do want you to know that it is amazing how they do learn to cope. How did you end the conversation? Did he tell you why he called you? If he gave you no information other than to scare you, you can't help him even if you want to. So was his object to frighten you? Are you sure it is true? Did he explain his surgery? I keep coming back to that. Is he using meth now? It would seem so if he actually did have a fight with meth addicts. If not, where did he find them and did he just walk up to them all by himself and bait them? Copa, there is much more to this story than you were told. It doesn't make sense as a stand alone story. If he was just trying to scare you, it was cruel and I'm so sorry you are so scared. I would be too. The next time he calls with a scary story, and he will, I would say, "Son, if you want to tell me the frightening events in your life, then you also need to tell me where you are and we need to go to McDonalds and talk. I want to see you. If you won't tell me, then it is torture and please don't call me. I am here to give you love and emotional support." Don't mention money. Detachment is whatever you want it to be. There are no rules. But it is accepting that we can't change their lives...only they can...and they can have us as their biggest cheerleaders once they decide to turn it around. That isn't enabling to me. My heart hurts for yours and I am very sad that this happened and I hope he exaggerated or that it didn't even happen at all. Take care of yourself now. There is nothing you can do for your grown son. Go seek comfort with M. Cry. It's ok. Don't let your son pull anything like that again. Cyber-hugs from every cell in my being. [/QUOTE]
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