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My son told me he got stabbed. I can't stop shaking.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 659832" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Copa, I'm so sorry. Our troubled kids can take us for such a big ride sometimes. As with the others, my guess is he is exaggerating his predicament to elicit sympathy so as to gain something from you. It seems to be in the '<em>Troubled Kid Handbook'</em>.....for the most part, they all do this tactic in one way or the other in varying degrees. It takes us awhile to catch on and let go of the fears it brings on. </p><p></p><p>Sounds as if you are feeling a little better. It takes us time to get back off of the fear train.</p><p></p><p>Over time, one gets through it without too much of a ripple in the fabric of life.......We change and we grow and we heal and we get better........even when our kids stay the same. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think over time, those of us who have detached from the orbit of our adult children's lives and let go of believing we have any control over it, simply go on with our lives.......our troubled kids are no longer the focus of everything, we are no longer enmeshed with them in ways that take over our lives. Once we get out of that orbit, there is a whole life out there which we can now LIVE. </p><p></p><p>It is not easy, it is not simple, it takes time, it takes a real commitment to yourself, it takes telling yourself the truth of <u>what is.</u> And then, accepting that truth. </p><p></p><p>But, Copa, it IS doable. I am over here on the other side of that devastation.......just keep walking in a straight line in the direction you're going.......and you will be on the other side too.........</p><p></p><p>Sending you a big hug.......this stuff is hard.......and you're doing it.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 659832, member: 13542"] Copa, I'm so sorry. Our troubled kids can take us for such a big ride sometimes. As with the others, my guess is he is exaggerating his predicament to elicit sympathy so as to gain something from you. It seems to be in the '[I]Troubled Kid Handbook'[/I].....for the most part, they all do this tactic in one way or the other in varying degrees. It takes us awhile to catch on and let go of the fears it brings on. Sounds as if you are feeling a little better. It takes us time to get back off of the fear train. Over time, one gets through it without too much of a ripple in the fabric of life.......We change and we grow and we heal and we get better........even when our kids stay the same. I think over time, those of us who have detached from the orbit of our adult children's lives and let go of believing we have any control over it, simply go on with our lives.......our troubled kids are no longer the focus of everything, we are no longer enmeshed with them in ways that take over our lives. Once we get out of that orbit, there is a whole life out there which we can now LIVE. It is not easy, it is not simple, it takes time, it takes a real commitment to yourself, it takes telling yourself the truth of [U]what is.[/U] And then, accepting that truth. But, Copa, it IS doable. I am over here on the other side of that devastation.......just keep walking in a straight line in the direction you're going.......and you will be on the other side too......... Sending you a big hug.......this stuff is hard.......and you're doing it..... [/QUOTE]
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