Thinking about it a bit the last few days, it occurs to me that my son's biggest problem is really his inappropriate use of language - this is what gets him into trouble all the time, in the sense of the negative view that people who don't KNOW him take of him. He is too harsh, too "rude", often too vulgar in his speech. For example, when a friend of mine told him off about something (she is French and so inclined to do this to children ), he picked up a stone and said "I'm going to kill you!" She knows him, she knows he is sweet and impulsive but not really violent, she didn't get upset by it - my ghastly neighbour overheard it and put a different construction on it, spreading it around the village what a "nasty", violent boy he is... When I went to pick him up today from school, an older girl was telling him to come out of somewhere he shouldn't have been - he was saying to her something that would be equivalent to "Shut it!" She didn't seem upset or surprised, but to my view that is aggressive and inappropriate speech for a 4 year old. Or anyone, come to that. We have an appointment with another speech therapist tomorrow - one that has worked with hyperactive children. Is this something that I should mention to her, is it an area she might be concerned with? Other than that, are there any suggestions as to how I might get him to understand how damaging this way of talking is to him, and others...?