my step-father died

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by pigless in VA, Oct 9, 2017.

  1. pigless in VA

    pigless in VA Well-Known Member

    No condolences are necessary. I have been waiting for years for troll to pass. Several months ago I explained to my mom that if he died first, I would not be able to attend his funeral.

    His son is best friends with my ex-husband who stalked me. I cannot and will not open up that can of venomous snakes. To meet with those people from my past would be unsafe.

    My mom understood. They had a gathering at troll's grandson's house but no formal funeral or memorial. According to mom, it went well and was dull except for one guy riding up on a Harley. She had forgotten who he was, but I remembered and am glad I wasn't there to experience it. I don't have anything against Harleys per se, but troll was friends with a host of extremely rough people.
     
  2. Littleboylost

    Littleboylost On the road unwanted to travel

    I am glad you were wise and stayed away.
     
  3. runawaybunny

    runawaybunny Administrator Staff Member

    I'm sorry for this entire journey. Seems like you made the wise choice not to attend.
     
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  4. RN0441

    RN0441 100% better than I was but not at 100% yet

    Only the good die young!

    I really think that's true the older I get.
     
  5. Tanya M

    Tanya M Living with an attitude of gratitude Staff Member

    I think you made a wise choice not to attend and I'm glad your mom understands.
     
  6. pigless in VA

    pigless in VA Well-Known Member

    I was worried about what my brother thought about me not attending. I decided to send him an email thanking him for going and for helping Mom fix her fence.

    That email seems to have broken the ice which had been between us since he blew up at me over my dad's driving. I'm glad I acknowledged how he helped Mom. I know the two of us will have to be able to talk about our aging parents.
     
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