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<blockquote data-quote="stressedmama" data-source="post: 660384" data-attributes="member: 18412"><p>I get it. My husband is the same way. Too soft - especially when it comes to his daughter. He still enables her and gets mad at me when I point it out. We have guardianship of her 3 year old son so we really are starting over. My youngest just graduated high school and I really thought we would be empty nesters by now. I'm with you on the angry and fed up part. I think I am beginning to border on depression, though. </p><p></p><p>I'm proud of you taking the step to list your house and take control of your life, your destiny. I feel like I have little to no control right now. My grandson pretty much controls any time I have off. Everything is based on his schedule (I am very strict on the schedule).</p><p></p><p>I think what sparked my descent into mild depression (maybe it's just feeling sorry for myself) was this past weekend. I kind of had an epiphany. There was a music festival in town. Oh how I would have loved to go spend the entire weekend camping out and enjoying the music and festivities! But I couldn't. I couldn't because I had no one to take care of grandson and no money to go. Don't get me wrong, I love my grandson to the moon and back. The frustration is watching Difficult Child step daughter sitting back, not working, lazy, still acting like an addict, expecting handouts (and getting them) and having no concern whatsoever how all this affects everyone else around her.</p><p></p><p>I so badly want to see a change in her so I can then see a light at the end of the tunnel that maybe someday she will be in a position to take care of her own child and we can fall back into the grandparent role where we see him when we want to - and then give him back to his mother when the visit is over. </p><p></p><p>Pipe dreams...she's never coming back for him. I need to find some balance before I drive myself crazy and become so completely filled with resentment.</p><p></p><p>Just know you're not alone. Take care of yourself. Stand up for yourself. You deserve it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="stressedmama, post: 660384, member: 18412"] I get it. My husband is the same way. Too soft - especially when it comes to his daughter. He still enables her and gets mad at me when I point it out. We have guardianship of her 3 year old son so we really are starting over. My youngest just graduated high school and I really thought we would be empty nesters by now. I'm with you on the angry and fed up part. I think I am beginning to border on depression, though. I'm proud of you taking the step to list your house and take control of your life, your destiny. I feel like I have little to no control right now. My grandson pretty much controls any time I have off. Everything is based on his schedule (I am very strict on the schedule). I think what sparked my descent into mild depression (maybe it's just feeling sorry for myself) was this past weekend. I kind of had an epiphany. There was a music festival in town. Oh how I would have loved to go spend the entire weekend camping out and enjoying the music and festivities! But I couldn't. I couldn't because I had no one to take care of grandson and no money to go. Don't get me wrong, I love my grandson to the moon and back. The frustration is watching Difficult Child step daughter sitting back, not working, lazy, still acting like an addict, expecting handouts (and getting them) and having no concern whatsoever how all this affects everyone else around her. I so badly want to see a change in her so I can then see a light at the end of the tunnel that maybe someday she will be in a position to take care of her own child and we can fall back into the grandparent role where we see him when we want to - and then give him back to his mother when the visit is over. Pipe dreams...she's never coming back for him. I need to find some balance before I drive myself crazy and become so completely filled with resentment. Just know you're not alone. Take care of yourself. Stand up for yourself. You deserve it! [/QUOTE]
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