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<blockquote data-quote="Alejandra" data-source="post: 713766" data-attributes="member: 21917"><p>Thank you for responding, you gave me good ideas and I think I should just tell her the thruth, I'm sure I did before and that's why she wouldn't call me anymore for a while, and I was actually doing the not answering the phone because I didnt want to hear, is so sad and definitely ordered the book and I was already at bpdcentral. I think I'm still probably dealing with the acceptance thing but I am working on it because like my meditation book said...acceptance is freedom and I choose to be free" is just so painful to see your daughter destroying herself and when you think...maybe this time something will change , maybe this time she will make good choices , you realized that nothing have change...she was hit by a car in Dec. 2016, broke her jaw in 3 parts and they have to wire her mouth for 8 weeks, after that she said she have learned her lesson and will get her life back...well, she got a settlement money for that accident, not much because she didn't want to go to the doctors the lawyer had send her, so she got $15,000 , I have offered to help her manage that money so she won't spend it , I know I shouldn't do that , but anyway she decided have her boyfriend hold the money for her...what?!!! They got a car , so she can go to her appointments but apparently he decided to put $6,000 down payment and they have to make payments!!! How? They are not working, I don't even understand how they approved him for that, because is under his name , my daughter's credit is really bad because when she quit her job, stopped paying her credit cards.. Anyway, they are living in a share home but they are paying only $140 a month and that is until October , after that, they will have to figure it out. But, she texted yesterday saying, we spent most of the settlement money so I'm stressing a little about finding a job soon, every day I'm doing my best" really?!! I guess I needed to vent about this , I just hope she won't start with her begging me to have her coming to our place , because is not happening and I have said that to her many times, I don't think I should have to be repeating this to her, if she does I will hung up the phone. I love my daughter very much and all of this is a very sad situation and I understand that she didn't ask for mental illness but she have choices , and because of bad choices she is where she is now... she have 3 different degrees , graduated from college with honors , she is a piano teacher and had her job, her place and everything is now gone, sometimes I feel a little guilty ( working on that too) because when I thought we were helping because of her mental illness , I guess we were enabling her and she got into that vicious cycle, now she will have to do it herself, is her journey and I have my own recovery to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alejandra, post: 713766, member: 21917"] Thank you for responding, you gave me good ideas and I think I should just tell her the thruth, I'm sure I did before and that's why she wouldn't call me anymore for a while, and I was actually doing the not answering the phone because I didnt want to hear, is so sad and definitely ordered the book and I was already at bpdcentral. I think I'm still probably dealing with the acceptance thing but I am working on it because like my meditation book said...acceptance is freedom and I choose to be free" is just so painful to see your daughter destroying herself and when you think...maybe this time something will change , maybe this time she will make good choices , you realized that nothing have change...she was hit by a car in Dec. 2016, broke her jaw in 3 parts and they have to wire her mouth for 8 weeks, after that she said she have learned her lesson and will get her life back...well, she got a settlement money for that accident, not much because she didn't want to go to the doctors the lawyer had send her, so she got $15,000 , I have offered to help her manage that money so she won't spend it , I know I shouldn't do that , but anyway she decided have her boyfriend hold the money for her...what?!!! They got a car , so she can go to her appointments but apparently he decided to put $6,000 down payment and they have to make payments!!! How? They are not working, I don't even understand how they approved him for that, because is under his name , my daughter's credit is really bad because when she quit her job, stopped paying her credit cards.. Anyway, they are living in a share home but they are paying only $140 a month and that is until October , after that, they will have to figure it out. But, she texted yesterday saying, we spent most of the settlement money so I'm stressing a little about finding a job soon, every day I'm doing my best" really?!! I guess I needed to vent about this , I just hope she won't start with her begging me to have her coming to our place , because is not happening and I have said that to her many times, I don't think I should have to be repeating this to her, if she does I will hung up the phone. I love my daughter very much and all of this is a very sad situation and I understand that she didn't ask for mental illness but she have choices , and because of bad choices she is where she is now... she have 3 different degrees , graduated from college with honors , she is a piano teacher and had her job, her place and everything is now gone, sometimes I feel a little guilty ( working on that too) because when I thought we were helping because of her mental illness , I guess we were enabling her and she got into that vicious cycle, now she will have to do it herself, is her journey and I have my own recovery to do. [/QUOTE]
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