Alisonlg
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So, I had another appointment with my therapist yesterday and I left feeling like perhaps I'm wasting my time. I don't know. We spend the bulk of our sessions talking about M & C and their behaviors and her giving me feedback on what she thinks their diagnosis might be based on what I've told her about them and yadda, yadda, yadda. While I guess it's helpful to have another professional to bounce information off of, I'm not sure that's really the purpose of my visits. I'm there to make sure *I'm* alright...to make sure that I'm mentally on the up and up, that when I give the mental family history to my children's Dr's, that I'm giving a complete and honest family history, and to make sure that mama is taken care of.
Granted, my children are a picture of what is going on in my life, but she seems far more interested in THEM than ME. There's none of that..."and how does that make you feel" or "and how do you react to that?" And while recent events have certainly triggered an emotional roller coaster, I want to be sure my innate, long term reactions to things are within "normal" range...but she does not seem at all interested in finding out about my past or personality, really. There were a couple times she quickly asked some questions to try to see if I was depressed (like when I told her I was a homebody and she asked if I was "always like that" to see if this was a new behavior, etc.)...but that's about it.
So...I don't know. Is this normal? For those of you who see tdocs, is this how your sessions usually go as well? Is it mostly about your kids? If not, what would you say/do?
I don't know how to address this with her without sounding like a hypochondriac! I mean, I don't want to say...hey, I think something is wrong with me and you're ignoring me, because that's not what I'm trying to say...but I do have some concerns that I certainly get the impression she's overlooking/ignoring/not even aware of because she hasn't even asked...I'm just looking for either some reassurance that my emotions/reactions fall within "normal" range so I can stop focusing on them or some recognition that they are not within normal range so I know that she's at least aware of my concerns and we can work on them...rather than just trying to diagnosis my kids. They have their own Dr's for goodness sakes!
Granted, my children are a picture of what is going on in my life, but she seems far more interested in THEM than ME. There's none of that..."and how does that make you feel" or "and how do you react to that?" And while recent events have certainly triggered an emotional roller coaster, I want to be sure my innate, long term reactions to things are within "normal" range...but she does not seem at all interested in finding out about my past or personality, really. There were a couple times she quickly asked some questions to try to see if I was depressed (like when I told her I was a homebody and she asked if I was "always like that" to see if this was a new behavior, etc.)...but that's about it.
So...I don't know. Is this normal? For those of you who see tdocs, is this how your sessions usually go as well? Is it mostly about your kids? If not, what would you say/do?
I don't know how to address this with her without sounding like a hypochondriac! I mean, I don't want to say...hey, I think something is wrong with me and you're ignoring me, because that's not what I'm trying to say...but I do have some concerns that I certainly get the impression she's overlooking/ignoring/not even aware of because she hasn't even asked...I'm just looking for either some reassurance that my emotions/reactions fall within "normal" range so I can stop focusing on them or some recognition that they are not within normal range so I know that she's at least aware of my concerns and we can work on them...rather than just trying to diagnosis my kids. They have their own Dr's for goodness sakes!