Ya know, those natural consequences sure are catching up with Nichole these days. lol You know the whole drama involving the new "friend" J? Well, said problem is now resolved. Turned out dear ol' Mom was right yet again, darn it all. J had been coming over when Nichole came home from boyfriend's house in the evenings. They were pretty much just hanging out. Although I wasn't so comfortable about it. But J does seem nice enough, and was polite so I didn't say anything. Til the other night when they were watching tv in the livingroom. Where my computer is located in the corner of the kitchen I have clear view into the livingroom. I noticed they were sitting awfully close for "friends". I happened to mention it when he left. Nichole said it was nothing. So I said well, don't seem to recall you sitting that close to any of your GIRL friends. lol I pretty much stayed out of it unless she brought it up. But I'd mention things like "playing with fire", how it was obvious that J REALLY likes her in much more than a "just friends" sort of way, that she wasn't respecting boyfriend or J. That sort of thing. Just mostly trying to get her to see the adult view of the situation. I'm really beginning to wonder if home schooling those last 2 yrs of hs hasn't stunted her social/relationship growth somewhat. Well, shocker of all shockers, b/f FINALLY told her that it really bothered him that she was hanging out with J so much when J wants more than just friendship. I guess it triggered him to tell her how he feels about her. Gee, they've been together how long? (his own issues with afraid of being volnerable/controled by someone) Seems at the same time....Nichole was on the phone with b/f while PMing J on the computer..... J was telling her he wanted more than just to be friends..... And Nichole told J that she didn't mean to hurt him, but that wasn't what she had in mind at all. The boy cried. (yep, I figured he had it bad) Now Nichole feels horrible that she led him on without actually meaning to and hurting him. (I think she was just enjoying the attention J was giving her.) Lesson learned. (I hope) So now it seems Nichole and b/f are planning to move into a place of their own come spring. I'll believe it when I see it. However, this has spawned some new discussions between Nichole and me. I'm gently pushing the learning to drive thing. Also told her that it would be a good idea for her to get a part time job soon, even if it was just on the weekends. A good way to get some spending money, taste a bit of independence, and get some work experience. And hopefully get that first job anxiety out of the way before she starts looking for work in a career. I'm nudging harder for more adult behavior. And maybe hinting somewhat that she won't be living here forever. I think she's become to comfortable with the statis quo.