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Navigating the roller coaster with difficult child son and impending grandbaby
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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 649293" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>So.....to catch up.</p><p></p><p>difficult child son sent me a text the Monday before Xmas to let me know he and the girlfriend were pregnant.</p><p></p><p>Fast forward to now.</p><p></p><p>From August until December- I had probably talked with difficult child no more than 5 times. And of those times, I had to repeat my mantra (that you all here empowered me with)...."you are an adult, your choices are yours".</p><p></p><p>Now there's a baby coming. My first grandbaby.</p><p></p><p>Met the girlfriend in January when I was invited to go to their first ultrasound.</p><p></p><p>Since then- I'm torn between wanting to warn HER to what she has gotten herself into with my son (I haven't and won't- that's on them)...and just being an excited grandmother to be.</p><p></p><p>Last friday, the two of them showed up at my job crying. Both of them. Lights about to get cutoff, can I help- what am I going to do. I caved. First time I've caved in 6 months. I don't regret doing it- I charged the light bill - no cash. I talked crazy stupid to both of them. I mean- I talked EXTRA crazy.</p><p></p><p>I told them both that that they both need to find fulltime STEADY work- damn all this temp job mess. That this was the ONE and ONLY time I would do this. And, don't get confused- if they don't get their act together, and I end up having to provide basics for this baby- then that baby will be with ME. Neither of them said a word. Now, if I were HER and someone had said that to ME- I'd have certainly spoken up and said that wouldn't be a concern.</p><p></p><p>She also has a 4 year old- that she has every other weekend.</p><p></p><p>difficult child is what he is- a liar, thief, all that. But he's MY son. And this baby is part of ME. </p><p></p><p>I can't walk away.</p><p></p><p>Yesterday he went to the Dr at my insistence to tell him that he was a) stopping smoking weed, and needed help with depression. He actually went. </p><p></p><p>They gave him Lexapro which made him violently ill. They ended up in ER last night. He's better today. Has two job interviews tomorrow.</p><p></p><p>Will this baby change him? I don't know. </p><p></p><p>He will not drag me back into his drama. There's more to this story. I just don't have it in me to type it all out right now.</p><p></p><p>/sigh</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 649293, member: 18271"] So.....to catch up. difficult child son sent me a text the Monday before Xmas to let me know he and the girlfriend were pregnant. Fast forward to now. From August until December- I had probably talked with difficult child no more than 5 times. And of those times, I had to repeat my mantra (that you all here empowered me with)...."you are an adult, your choices are yours". Now there's a baby coming. My first grandbaby. Met the girlfriend in January when I was invited to go to their first ultrasound. Since then- I'm torn between wanting to warn HER to what she has gotten herself into with my son (I haven't and won't- that's on them)...and just being an excited grandmother to be. Last friday, the two of them showed up at my job crying. Both of them. Lights about to get cutoff, can I help- what am I going to do. I caved. First time I've caved in 6 months. I don't regret doing it- I charged the light bill - no cash. I talked crazy stupid to both of them. I mean- I talked EXTRA crazy. I told them both that that they both need to find fulltime STEADY work- damn all this temp job mess. That this was the ONE and ONLY time I would do this. And, don't get confused- if they don't get their act together, and I end up having to provide basics for this baby- then that baby will be with ME. Neither of them said a word. Now, if I were HER and someone had said that to ME- I'd have certainly spoken up and said that wouldn't be a concern. She also has a 4 year old- that she has every other weekend. difficult child is what he is- a liar, thief, all that. But he's MY son. And this baby is part of ME. I can't walk away. Yesterday he went to the Dr at my insistence to tell him that he was a) stopping smoking weed, and needed help with depression. He actually went. They gave him Lexapro which made him violently ill. They ended up in ER last night. He's better today. Has two job interviews tomorrow. Will this baby change him? I don't know. He will not drag me back into his drama. There's more to this story. I just don't have it in me to type it all out right now. /sigh [/QUOTE]
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