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Need Advice-19 yr old college son trying marijuanna and ?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 7559" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Welcome aboard. Sorry you have to join us. Like you, we have all experienced the disappointment and shock of finding</p><p>that drugs have invaded our life. It's so darn sad!</p><p></p><p>Facing reality...without excess anger...is really difficult.</p><p>It is very very important that both parents get exactly on</p><p>the same page with whatever rules or changes are mandated.</p><p>Probably being on the "same page" is more important than what the specific message of the page is for your difficult child. You</p><p>all have to decide what is best for your family. Each of us</p><p>have to sift through the options and then take a stand.</p><p></p><p>Advice?? Well, I would think it best to lovingly tell your</p><p>son that you are aware that he is a legal adult and able to</p><p>make his own decisions. Furthermore you are confident he can make it on his own out in the world. BUT since he is involved in drugs he will not be welcome to live at home again until he opts to be drugfree. I would pay for the next semester at college and agree to pay his college costs</p><p>on the condition that he submit his grades to show that he is serious about his education. I would sign over the car</p><p>& make sure the insurance is paid. Then, I would change the</p><p>locks on the house and tell the younger children that their</p><p>brother has decided to live on his own for awhile.</p><p></p><p>Your son is selling or "holding" for someone. He did not</p><p>try a joint or two. He, like our difficult children, is a druggie. Like</p><p>many of our kids he is bright, goodlooking, an athlete or a</p><p>musician who's future was suppose to be bright and make everyone happy and proud. He is blowing it.</p><p></p><p>I will cross my fingers and say a few prayers that your son</p><p>can face his poor choices before suffering the consequences</p><p>that many of our kids have had to face. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 7559, member: 35"] Welcome aboard. Sorry you have to join us. Like you, we have all experienced the disappointment and shock of finding that drugs have invaded our life. It's so darn sad! Facing reality...without excess anger...is really difficult. It is very very important that both parents get exactly on the same page with whatever rules or changes are mandated. Probably being on the "same page" is more important than what the specific message of the page is for your difficult child. You all have to decide what is best for your family. Each of us have to sift through the options and then take a stand. Advice?? Well, I would think it best to lovingly tell your son that you are aware that he is a legal adult and able to make his own decisions. Furthermore you are confident he can make it on his own out in the world. BUT since he is involved in drugs he will not be welcome to live at home again until he opts to be drugfree. I would pay for the next semester at college and agree to pay his college costs on the condition that he submit his grades to show that he is serious about his education. I would sign over the car & make sure the insurance is paid. Then, I would change the locks on the house and tell the younger children that their brother has decided to live on his own for awhile. Your son is selling or "holding" for someone. He did not try a joint or two. He, like our difficult children, is a druggie. Like many of our kids he is bright, goodlooking, an athlete or a musician who's future was suppose to be bright and make everyone happy and proud. He is blowing it. I will cross my fingers and say a few prayers that your son can face his poor choices before suffering the consequences that many of our kids have had to face. DDD [/QUOTE]
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