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<blockquote data-quote="On_Call" data-source="post: 12728" data-attributes="member: 3211"><p>I can't think of a time when I've asked him why he does the self-harming. I will have to ask him today and tell you what his response is. Probably it will be his stock answer of "I don't know". That seems to be his answer for most of his behaviors, and he probably doesn't really know. The meltdowns are an entity of their own.</p><p></p><p>We use a need to know tactic with difficult child's coaches. If things are going well, we don't speak to the coaches. If they are not, or if difficult child seems to be struggling, we have a discreet discussion with the coach and explain difficult child's situation and issues. So far, for the most part, it has gone okay. Our difficult child has been doing karate for a year now and the Master is great! During difficult child's recent inpatient stay at the psychiatric hospital, I called him and he made up a card for difficult child and had everyone sign it - telling difficult child's fellow students only that difficult child wasn't feeling well and needed a pick-me-up. It was awesome! </p><p></p><p>My husband and I for the most part have a united front where difficult child is concerned, but even we have our differences of opinion on how to deal with difficult child and the surrounding situation. It is a constant struggle and a contant stress in our household, on our marriage and on our family dynamics. Most recently, we had an argument during one of difficult child's meltdowns because he had had enough and was handling it in a way that I would not handle it. It is most definitely a difficult situation, no matter what your family make-up is.</p><p></p><p>I don't know how I would handle things if it was just me trying to do it. I feel for you on that aspect. And, if husband and I were separated, I am sure I would worry about how things would be if difficult child were staying and or living in his household versus with me. I don't have any advice on that one. It only complicates the matter for you. At our difficult child's discharge in late November, we were referred to a State organization that provides crisis intervention, community, and respite services. We just received a letter determining that we qualified for services and that someone would be contacting us to see what services we might be interested in taking advantage of. I think some on the board have called it "wrap-around services" before. Can you contact your County to see if services exist where you live? This might give you the help you can use without having difficult child leave your home. Worth a shot. Does your difficult child have counseling? Does he currently take medications - and what does he take?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="On_Call, post: 12728, member: 3211"] I can't think of a time when I've asked him why he does the self-harming. I will have to ask him today and tell you what his response is. Probably it will be his stock answer of "I don't know". That seems to be his answer for most of his behaviors, and he probably doesn't really know. The meltdowns are an entity of their own. We use a need to know tactic with difficult child's coaches. If things are going well, we don't speak to the coaches. If they are not, or if difficult child seems to be struggling, we have a discreet discussion with the coach and explain difficult child's situation and issues. So far, for the most part, it has gone okay. Our difficult child has been doing karate for a year now and the Master is great! During difficult child's recent inpatient stay at the psychiatric hospital, I called him and he made up a card for difficult child and had everyone sign it - telling difficult child's fellow students only that difficult child wasn't feeling well and needed a pick-me-up. It was awesome! My husband and I for the most part have a united front where difficult child is concerned, but even we have our differences of opinion on how to deal with difficult child and the surrounding situation. It is a constant struggle and a contant stress in our household, on our marriage and on our family dynamics. Most recently, we had an argument during one of difficult child's meltdowns because he had had enough and was handling it in a way that I would not handle it. It is most definitely a difficult situation, no matter what your family make-up is. I don't know how I would handle things if it was just me trying to do it. I feel for you on that aspect. And, if husband and I were separated, I am sure I would worry about how things would be if difficult child were staying and or living in his household versus with me. I don't have any advice on that one. It only complicates the matter for you. At our difficult child's discharge in late November, we were referred to a State organization that provides crisis intervention, community, and respite services. We just received a letter determining that we qualified for services and that someone would be contacting us to see what services we might be interested in taking advantage of. I think some on the board have called it "wrap-around services" before. Can you contact your County to see if services exist where you live? This might give you the help you can use without having difficult child leave your home. Worth a shot. Does your difficult child have counseling? Does he currently take medications - and what does he take? [/QUOTE]
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