difficult child is now 27 and demonstrated problems from about age 9. ACOA (husband is high functioning alcoholic , somewhat physically abusive in our 20's' and 30's - pushing , shoving, throwing things- now verbal ...and we've been together for 33 years..I was active in Alanon for about 3 years) , difficult child diagnosis clinical depression and 1 doctor said "mildly BiPolar (BP)"...difficult child had been in and out of county jail for various offenses from 17 - 21, 2 dui's and hasn't had drivers license since he was about 22. He left home for 3 years, to go to sound engineering school in a different state (dropped out of HS at 16 but got GED), I supported him and he did well in school, then he moved to NY to intern and found a girl to support him, (each time I moved him around the country) but that relationship was toxic and he was abusive. He has never maintained any job longer than a few months. He recently (1 1/2 weeks ago) came back home to relocate to a nearby city, (I helped move him home). He feels like a failure, hates himself and still uses acohol and pot although not with same frequency as teens, He is moving in with a friend in a nearby city (about hour and half away) after before New Years Day. The stress level in the house is unbearable...he's up all night prowling around , wakes us up making noise, ...sleeps all day.... has asked me to help with his first months rent. If I say no, he stays in my house and doesn't move...alternative is put him out on the street and I can't do that...I've offered to pay for a therapist for him and he may take me up on that...I guess I'm looking for input on how to cope..are there resources for him (or is my providing therapy the best way to go)..with his record (1 felony) and drug use getting a decent job is difficult..I'm at a loss as to how to help me (and me)...thoughts?