My mother and I went to see a drug and alcohol counselor together. He gave us advice and we have a meeting scheduled with my son today. The problem is that I am having a disagreement with my mother about what the counselor told us to do. It was a lot of information in a short time , I wanted to write it down because I knew we would forget and get mixed up. I want to do this right and not end up back to square one. I thought the counselor said for us to meet with my son and tell him that he needs to make an appointment with a drug and alcohol counselor that we have a business card to give him, tell him that he will sign medical releases over to me and my mother so his counselor can talk to our counselor about his treatment, that he will have to take drug test as requested or we will shut off all finances to him and to give him one week to comply. My mom thinks the counselor said for us to only tell him he goes to see a counselor not a drug and alcohol counselor and not to mention anything about drug test or releasing medical information to us or we will cut off all finances. She says its just important to get him there. He already sees a normal counselor and when she ask him to take a drug test he took both my mother and I off the medical release and he did not take the drug test as requested. I know that he will go see a regular counselor for us to keep helping him financially. If we don't tell him that it's a drug and alcohol counselor and about the drug test or releasing medical information to us then when he is hit with all this he will just quit and we will be back to square one . I have had a complete fight with my mother as to what the counselor told us to do. I don't know how two people can be advised at the same time by the same person and have two totally different views as to what he said to do. There's no way to call the counselor it's Saturday and can't get back in to see him for 2 weeks. The meeting is already set up with my son , my husband(my sons stepdad) is going also to keep us strong because we are both so weak. My son is so very convincing that he is not on drugs and that he will commit suicide. Which approach sounds the best for those with experience?