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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 664292" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would keep mom out of this, even if she has a hissy fit. He is your son and you need to step up to the plate and make the final decisions and tell her you are going to do so without her input. Otherwise you are going to be fighting with your mom and, if she is like mine, she will make you feel like a little girl who can't handle your own child and she's wrong. Your husband should man up too and take his place as your son's father model.</p><p></p><p>If Son runs to Grandma because you're "mean" let him. Grandma will get tired of him too, but then it's on her.</p><p></p><p>You may have been 17 when you had your son but you are a mature woman of 30 something now. You are strong and competent and don't need her input. It's hurting him AND you. Tell her nicely that you are hereafter making all decisions for your son's care yourself. If she throws a fit, let her and walk away until she is more reasonable.</p><p></p><p>Don't trust a counselor 100% either. TRUST YOURSELF. You will have a gut feeling when you hear or know what is right for your son.l Mothers can be wrong. Therapists can be wrong. Do what is best for your son and, because you are just as important as he is, for you too. Don't let your mother make you feel like a little girl. You speak up. You are no longer her baby. She should not be involved in this even though she helped you raise hiim. Only one person can have the final say, and it should be YOU.</p><p></p><p>JMO</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 664292, member: 1550"] I would keep mom out of this, even if she has a hissy fit. He is your son and you need to step up to the plate and make the final decisions and tell her you are going to do so without her input. Otherwise you are going to be fighting with your mom and, if she is like mine, she will make you feel like a little girl who can't handle your own child and she's wrong. Your husband should man up too and take his place as your son's father model. If Son runs to Grandma because you're "mean" let him. Grandma will get tired of him too, but then it's on her. You may have been 17 when you had your son but you are a mature woman of 30 something now. You are strong and competent and don't need her input. It's hurting him AND you. Tell her nicely that you are hereafter making all decisions for your son's care yourself. If she throws a fit, let her and walk away until she is more reasonable. Don't trust a counselor 100% either. TRUST YOURSELF. You will have a gut feeling when you hear or know what is right for your son.l Mothers can be wrong. Therapists can be wrong. Do what is best for your son and, because you are just as important as he is, for you too. Don't let your mother make you feel like a little girl. You speak up. You are no longer her baby. She should not be involved in this even though she helped you raise hiim. Only one person can have the final say, and it should be YOU. JMO [/QUOTE]
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