Hello all,
I was a semi regular last summer/fall winter. This concerns my adult son who is a drug addict. To cut right to the chase, he has spent the past 3 1/2 months at his sister's house. He has held down a job but saved no money, works everyday stays in at night, and gives her $40 a week. . I got pulled right back in to helping:a bike, a used moped, money for registration etc... Plus money every week for something or other. I am quite sure he is on sub ozone, but buying it on the street . Last winter was so horrendous for all of us as he was homeless, using heroin, and in and out of detox, that this has been a relatively quiet time. Now the deadline my daughter gave him is approaching and his job is ending as it is seasonal. He is also definitely clinically depressed among other things. Here is my dilemma ; he will not stop calling me for advise, money, rides. I keep telling him he needs to figure out his life without me but he just cannot and or will not stop. And every time I tell him it is so painful to me. He is so rejected and depressed but says :"you are all I have! " is it the right thing for me to keep trying to make myself unavailable to him even though it is apparent he has huge issues? I just have not got much left and have been fairly successful at taking care of myself lately, but another bad winter is approaching I'm afraid.
I was a semi regular last summer/fall winter. This concerns my adult son who is a drug addict. To cut right to the chase, he has spent the past 3 1/2 months at his sister's house. He has held down a job but saved no money, works everyday stays in at night, and gives her $40 a week. . I got pulled right back in to helping:a bike, a used moped, money for registration etc... Plus money every week for something or other. I am quite sure he is on sub ozone, but buying it on the street . Last winter was so horrendous for all of us as he was homeless, using heroin, and in and out of detox, that this has been a relatively quiet time. Now the deadline my daughter gave him is approaching and his job is ending as it is seasonal. He is also definitely clinically depressed among other things. Here is my dilemma ; he will not stop calling me for advise, money, rides. I keep telling him he needs to figure out his life without me but he just cannot and or will not stop. And every time I tell him it is so painful to me. He is so rejected and depressed but says :"you are all I have! " is it the right thing for me to keep trying to make myself unavailable to him even though it is apparent he has huge issues? I just have not got much left and have been fairly successful at taking care of myself lately, but another bad winter is approaching I'm afraid.