So daughter has been getting a bad attitude. Started a few months ago and we get into it with each other quite a bit - especially when we both have PMS. I can't help but wonder if it is hormones - I have read about this happening when a baby turns about 8 - 9 months. I have been trying to tell her that I think she needs to go back on something but she fought hard against it until yesterday. She finally admitted that she needs medication and plans to make an appointment. She still doesn't have a job and says she is upset about that, yet isn't really out there searching for one either. I told her she could go to school instead of working. She doesn't know what she wants to do. I really think this is all due to depression. Me - I make it known when I disagree with her parenting. I can't help it. I have NEVER been one to keep my mouth shut. I fought hard to protect that baby in the womb and I feel SO protective of him now. Of course this is what causes most of our arguments. Example - we argued a bit during the day yesterday so around 7 last night, she was getting Connor ready to go out. I asked why she was taking him out at night when he should be home getting ready for bed? I told her babies need stability and not to be galavanting around to her friend's houses. Of course this started another argument. She asked me if I ever stopped to think that maybe where she was taking him was more "homey" than being here. That by him being here with us arguing is not good for him, either. Well, she and the baby did not come home last night. Not cool in my book. She never told me she would not be home and I worry. husband was not happy this morning when he saw that she didn't come home and said the same thing I did - not good for the baby's stability to not come home. She has been working nights painting and I know she was exhausted. It is quite possible her and the baby fell asleep at her friend's house. Still, I don't think she should have went anywhere to begin with. I know that I am being overbearing, controlling and judgemental and for some reason - I can't stop myself! husband agrees with me, so I am not sure if it is me, or her. She says I make her feel like a bad mother but I just want her to be better than I was! I am starting to think that living together is not such a good idea. It is great for Connor, but we just butt heads with her. I can't see me keeping my mouth shut. In my opinion, I pay for this house and I will say what I want in it. But sheesh, typing this out, I am kind of seeing me from her point of view. Yikes. Am I wrong? How do you live with your adult children and not comment on what they do? Especially when it comes to raising their children? Help?