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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 632130" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I agree with Cedar PG, as hard as that is for you, your daughter has to find her own mother's shoes and be able to fit in them well. It probably is a good idea for her to move to her own place. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you with Connor right there in your home. </p><p></p><p>I did what Cedar did too, I deferred to my daughter's mothering until I could handle it no longer and then I went for guardianship. But my daughter was neglecting her daughter, your daughter sounds as if she is a good Mom but has different thoughts about raising a baby. You may be totally "right" but being right and continuing to let your daughter know that only makes her feel "wrong." No one likes to feel wrong all the time. </p><p></p><p>She has to learn how to mother, as we all do. And, you need to let her do that. As we on the PE side realize all the time, here is another opportunity to let go. And, as is always the case, it isn't easy. I like that expression I heard on here a few times, 'sit on your lips' when you want to interfere in your daughter's choices about Connor. And, then, perhaps, the best solution in the long run is to encourage her to find her own place.</p><p></p><p>So sorry, I know how difficult it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 632130, member: 13542"] I agree with Cedar PG, as hard as that is for you, your daughter has to find her own mother's shoes and be able to fit in them well. It probably is a good idea for her to move to her own place. I can only imagine how difficult it is for you with Connor right there in your home. I did what Cedar did too, I deferred to my daughter's mothering until I could handle it no longer and then I went for guardianship. But my daughter was neglecting her daughter, your daughter sounds as if she is a good Mom but has different thoughts about raising a baby. You may be totally "right" but being right and continuing to let your daughter know that only makes her feel "wrong." No one likes to feel wrong all the time. She has to learn how to mother, as we all do. And, you need to let her do that. As we on the PE side realize all the time, here is another opportunity to let go. And, as is always the case, it isn't easy. I like that expression I heard on here a few times, 'sit on your lips' when you want to interfere in your daughter's choices about Connor. And, then, perhaps, the best solution in the long run is to encourage her to find her own place. So sorry, I know how difficult it is. [/QUOTE]
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