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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 632215" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hey, PG, I can only imagine how hard it is to watch your daughter not parent in a healthy way for your precious grandson. </p><p></p><p>I am sitting here thinking about that, and trying to put myself in your place. I am sure it would drive me crazy, watching a baby not get everything he needs.</p><p></p><p>But you know, PG, we didn't get everything we needed either, and we turned out okay (I think! lol). </p><p></p><p>Your daughter isn't going to be able to live up to what you expect and want for Connor. No matter what.</p><p></p><p>I understand she is still getting on her feet. What about working with her to make a plan for her to move out three months or six months from now? Get some money saved, find a roommate, so it's not in a rush.</p><p></p><p>And in the meantime, you get busy and start focusing on something else other than them (daughter and Connor). </p><p></p><p>Turn your head, bite your tongue, walk out of the room, but work hard to stay out of her business. Put some physical boundaries in place inside your home so it's not staring you in the face all the time.</p><p></p><p>I am sure you dearly and deeply love her and your grandson. But as I've often said on this board, I really don't think God intended for adult parents and their adult children to live under the same roof. Too much baggage, too much emotion flowing, too many expectations. It's hard for us to be anything else other than parent/child, no matter our age.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there! You are only human, and so are they. And you can't protect Connor from all of the difficulties in the world---you know that. Warm hugs tonight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 632215, member: 17542"] Hey, PG, I can only imagine how hard it is to watch your daughter not parent in a healthy way for your precious grandson. I am sitting here thinking about that, and trying to put myself in your place. I am sure it would drive me crazy, watching a baby not get everything he needs. But you know, PG, we didn't get everything we needed either, and we turned out okay (I think! lol). Your daughter isn't going to be able to live up to what you expect and want for Connor. No matter what. I understand she is still getting on her feet. What about working with her to make a plan for her to move out three months or six months from now? Get some money saved, find a roommate, so it's not in a rush. And in the meantime, you get busy and start focusing on something else other than them (daughter and Connor). Turn your head, bite your tongue, walk out of the room, but work hard to stay out of her business. Put some physical boundaries in place inside your home so it's not staring you in the face all the time. I am sure you dearly and deeply love her and your grandson. But as I've often said on this board, I really don't think God intended for adult parents and their adult children to live under the same roof. Too much baggage, too much emotion flowing, too many expectations. It's hard for us to be anything else other than parent/child, no matter our age. Hang in there! You are only human, and so are they. And you can't protect Connor from all of the difficulties in the world---you know that. Warm hugs tonight. [/QUOTE]
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