My good friends are going through a rough time. Today is their sons 21st b-day and the kid sits in jail on felony assault charges (domestic). For the last 4 months they have been taking their son to an outpatient drug rehab to help him. They wanted to get that under control before they worked on his issues. Now, here their son sits, been there for a few weeks. My friends are in such pain. They have hired a good attorney for the kid. And they understand that this is where and what the kid needs, but at the same time, they want the lesson to be over. They listen when you tell them they need to detach, that they need to let the kid deal with the natural consequences of his actions, and that if they plan to have the kid move in with them after all of this they need to have a contract. (the BM no longer wants the kid) I don't know if there is anything I can say that could help without feeling like I'm rubbing salt in the wounds. But, if there is anyone that would have good advice, even if it's "there's nothing for you to say", this is where I know I'll get the best advice. Any thoughts appreciated. Thanks!