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NEED ADVICE talked to difficult child's PO today!
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 13657" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I don't envy you, for sure. Each of us has to make such difficult choices and decisions from the vast grey areas!</p><p></p><p>Some of my random thoughts and questions:</p><p>1) Are there better recovery house choices in another part</p><p>of your State? I know Karen's son has had a wide range of</p><p>locations and most of them have curfews, zero tolerance,</p><p>required meeting attendance etc. If that is an option I would vote hands down for that choice.</p><p></p><p>2. If he lives in your City, would you all be responsible for all his medical, transportation, housing and survival costs? </p><p></p><p>3. Does he seem to "get it" a bit better now or is it the</p><p>"I want out" philosophy speaking? If he is capable of truly</p><p>understanding a contract of rules that MUST be followed, and</p><p>understands he would be entirely on his own with the prison</p><p>system if he failed to conform then it "might" be worth serious consideration.</p><p></p><p>Like everyone else I would fully support your choice but I</p><p>tend to think that an independent (even if out of town) half</p><p>way house would be best and your husband's idea would be second</p><p>best. Truly I live daily with the stress of living with a</p><p>non-violent and compliant grown teen with issues....some are</p><p>physical, most are addiction resultant. Like you I love my</p><p>son to death. Like you I want him to be well & functioning</p><p>well again. Living with that daily tension of never knowing</p><p>what "might" happen erodes your life. You can never really</p><p>be relaxed. It is a high high price to pay. If you can</p><p>avoid it, I suggest you try. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 13657, member: 35"] I don't envy you, for sure. Each of us has to make such difficult choices and decisions from the vast grey areas! Some of my random thoughts and questions: 1) Are there better recovery house choices in another part of your State? I know Karen's son has had a wide range of locations and most of them have curfews, zero tolerance, required meeting attendance etc. If that is an option I would vote hands down for that choice. 2. If he lives in your City, would you all be responsible for all his medical, transportation, housing and survival costs? 3. Does he seem to "get it" a bit better now or is it the "I want out" philosophy speaking? If he is capable of truly understanding a contract of rules that MUST be followed, and understands he would be entirely on his own with the prison system if he failed to conform then it "might" be worth serious consideration. Like everyone else I would fully support your choice but I tend to think that an independent (even if out of town) half way house would be best and your husband's idea would be second best. Truly I live daily with the stress of living with a non-violent and compliant grown teen with issues....some are physical, most are addiction resultant. Like you I love my son to death. Like you I want him to be well & functioning well again. Living with that daily tension of never knowing what "might" happen erodes your life. You can never really be relaxed. It is a high high price to pay. If you can avoid it, I suggest you try. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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