I need some advice. In January of 2007 my husband and I booked a cruise for July 2008 for us and the 2 kids (difficult child N and our daughter the easy child). When we booked the trip we considered there would be a chance that N would not want to go with us as he would be 18 years old by then and the cruise was on Disney Cruise Line (which he might be too cool for). Anyway, now that N is being a total pain in the rear, I dont want to reward his behavior by taking him on this trip. If we cancel him by the end of this month, we get all but our deposit back, which I would like to use for shipboard credit. But then we have the concern about N will do while we are gone. I wouldnt let him stay in the house (if hes still living with us), but I cant board up the doggy/kitty door for our cat. We send the dogs to a kennel, but our cat stays home and we have a friend come by and feed him (the kitty is kind of old). I am concerned that N will come into our house through the doggy door (which he has done several times before), and then who knows what will happen. If we lock the door, then the kitty cant get in or out and that wont go well either. I guess Id love to drop N off in some far away town while we are gone so we know the house is safe when we get back. Is that an option???? Since hes an adult its not really abandonment, right?