My 3 yo M began preschool last week. He is doing well according to the teacher. I have a very deep bond with this child and I am worried that the program (8:30-1:20) every day is too much for him. My little girl C started at the same time in an afternoon program for 2 hours three days a week and I feel she is doing great, she could even use more, but she is a very outgoing active little girl that is on target developmentally. M shows about a year delay in many areas. The school has him receiving speech 3 xs a week and Occupational Therapist (OT) 1 x, they want him there this long in part so they can schedule his therapies. M is screaming that he doesnt want to go to school, he is then begging to have me or his sister go with him. With a neuro typical child I know I would just have to grit my teeth and stay strong and let him go, but he isnt typical. The school doesnt seem very receptive to his needs such as I still give a pacifier when stressed, they discourage it. They put it away and dont let him have it. The first day they had him on a bus to come home for 50 minutes, this was acceptable to them. M is at high risk for mental illness, I believe he will probably be diagnosed with bipolar at some point and I am very worried that too much stress will make that point earlier then it needs to be. I already know the he** that BiPolar (BP) is and I dont want to deal with it a day earlier then I need to. M shows signs of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) now, yesterday he was strapped into the car seat on the bus ride home(now a reasonable 20 minutes) and a fly was on the window right next to him. M was all tensed up and trying to shut down and told me about the bug as soon as he saw me, the bus driver didnt understand any of this, she said to me that he looked like he was ready to go to sleep. Maybe he was earlier and the bug thing just happened but what if it was bothering him all the way home and the driver doesnt get it? I know this sounds over protective but later that night he complains to us about a bug while he is trying to play the Wii, we look and cant see any bug. Four times he complains and finally he just stops playing the Wii and leaves that room. Any I being overly protective? I would feel differently if I felt that the school really understood. Any advice?