happymomof2
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Hi everyone, I haven't posted in a while because things have been going super great with difficult child. Not sure how many of you remember but my son got arrested last Nov. Before and up until and even a little after he got arrested he had a very bad attitude, was in self contained, was making bad grades and the school was calling me at least twice a week if not more. Since Jan. he has had a great attitude, made much better grades, found some really cool nice friends to hang with and at the beginning of this year is finally out of self contained.
Today was his first major anger blow up meltdown in a very long time and it was a doosey. I picked him up from a friends house where he had spent the night. His girlfriend and the guy's girlfriend were staying over there but I wanted him to come home. He was gone all last weekend on a youth trip and hadn't been home much this weekend. He wasn't real happy about leaving there but he was handling it o.k. He got home and got on the phone with his girlfriend and they started arguing and she hung up on him. He started using some very foul language and started out the front door saying he was walking to the guys house. It isn't that far away but I wouldn't want to walk it. I told him not to go out of the yard. He didn't but instead started breaking up sticks and rocks and throwing rocks into the neighbors yard across the street. Then started saying very smart remarks to me and his dad with a smirk on his face. I remained calm - how I did it I will never know but I knew if I started yelling it would just escalate. We got him back inside and started talking to him. He calmed down and went off with his dad for a while. He was doing good and later this evening got on the phone with his girlfriend again and she told him she wanted to break up. He lost it, told us to take him over there if we didn't he was leaving, he started counting down from 5. He walked out of my bedroom and tried to pass my husband but he put his hand to stop him and wrestled him to the ground because he started fighting. It got pretty ugly. My son ended up on the kitchen floor crying saying he hated us didn't want to be here anymore, didn't want to live anymore. He kept saying "I want to go home". I said where is that? Where's home he said heaven. I started crying at that point and I ask him what did he think that would do to me - he said "you can go with me".
His girlfriend called back and I talked with her for a few she said she changed her mind and didn't want to break up. I told her not to do that because of the way he was reacting. I don't want her to feel controlled by him. He is not on medications yet but probably will be by the end of this week. I ask his girlfriend if she would please just wait until I got him on some medications and got him some help.
O.K. hit me with your best shot - how wrong of me was that. I just couldn't bare to come home and find him hanging from a tree like a friend of mine did her son.
He has an appointment this Thursday for counseling and medications.
Please pray for us we need it.
Thanks
Today was his first major anger blow up meltdown in a very long time and it was a doosey. I picked him up from a friends house where he had spent the night. His girlfriend and the guy's girlfriend were staying over there but I wanted him to come home. He was gone all last weekend on a youth trip and hadn't been home much this weekend. He wasn't real happy about leaving there but he was handling it o.k. He got home and got on the phone with his girlfriend and they started arguing and she hung up on him. He started using some very foul language and started out the front door saying he was walking to the guys house. It isn't that far away but I wouldn't want to walk it. I told him not to go out of the yard. He didn't but instead started breaking up sticks and rocks and throwing rocks into the neighbors yard across the street. Then started saying very smart remarks to me and his dad with a smirk on his face. I remained calm - how I did it I will never know but I knew if I started yelling it would just escalate. We got him back inside and started talking to him. He calmed down and went off with his dad for a while. He was doing good and later this evening got on the phone with his girlfriend again and she told him she wanted to break up. He lost it, told us to take him over there if we didn't he was leaving, he started counting down from 5. He walked out of my bedroom and tried to pass my husband but he put his hand to stop him and wrestled him to the ground because he started fighting. It got pretty ugly. My son ended up on the kitchen floor crying saying he hated us didn't want to be here anymore, didn't want to live anymore. He kept saying "I want to go home". I said where is that? Where's home he said heaven. I started crying at that point and I ask him what did he think that would do to me - he said "you can go with me".
His girlfriend called back and I talked with her for a few she said she changed her mind and didn't want to break up. I told her not to do that because of the way he was reacting. I don't want her to feel controlled by him. He is not on medications yet but probably will be by the end of this week. I ask his girlfriend if she would please just wait until I got him on some medications and got him some help.
O.K. hit me with your best shot - how wrong of me was that. I just couldn't bare to come home and find him hanging from a tree like a friend of mine did her son.
He has an appointment this Thursday for counseling and medications.
Please pray for us we need it.
Thanks