Hello All--I'm new to this site and finding it very helpful. I need help in sorting out options for supporting my 30 year old son. I am a single woman with a stable state job, but no real assets or monetary cushion. My son has battled alcohol for years which was heartbreaking enough. He unfortunately made the switch to smoking heroin a few years ago. He was also recently diagnosed with a combination of cognitive/borderline IQ issues and started drawing Social Security Supplemental income. He has never had a license, held down a job for long or learned to live independently. He has a good heart, is a tremendous athlete, but has never experienced stability as an adult in any real way. Has a 4 year old that that he no longer sees. Beautiful little boy--breaks my heart. Anyway, he is in the county jail, day 13, for 5 different charges ranging from malicious mischief to possession of heroin. His total bail charges are $12,500. The dilemma is that he has a bed date to start drug treatment today, and will lose that bed if he doesn't get that by 3 today. His chemical dependency case manager and state appointed attorney went before a judge on Friday hoping that he'd be granted furlough into treatment. That didn't happen and the judge opted to have him serve some time and put his court date out to May 19th. Since treatment is not court ordered, the only option to get him to his treatment today is for me to post his bail. I could use his Social Security check for most of that, but I'm very nervous about him missing court dates down the road, and being potentially responsible to pay back the $12,000. It's been an exhausting 13 days. Hi druggie girlfriend nearly managed to bail him out on the 29th before she entered her own treatment, but I refused to meet her to give her his SS check. A few offered the money, if I signed. Those friends of his, after getting to know me on the phone and see how I'm trying hard to support from a distance, are encouraging me not to post bail and to let him stay in jail until he can be released to treatment with by a court order. It seems a shame to me that he is losing this bed date, especially when he has completed the horrendous detox part in jail. Is the right thing to do to let him face the music and wait for another bed date? So concerned someone else will bail him out and he'll be on the streets again and miss this chance at treatment, today! I know this probably won't happen day unless I get a miracle call. Should I make this treatment happen somehow to maybe save his life? Any suggestions much appreciated. Bless you all.